It’s been a couple of weeks since my last post, but I certainly hope you extended your Sexual Resolution through February. Granted you might not be doing a challenge a day or anything, but considering how well you started your year, there’s nothing wrong with keeping up the momentum.

Since it’s the Official Day of Love, I wanted to spread some of my own and announce the winner of the Sexual Resolution Grand Prize Giveaway, courtesy of Eden Fantasys.

Ass smack roll, please…

Mommy is Dating

Congrats, Piper, and thanks to all the hot mamas who joined me in January and were kind enough to blog about it.

If you’re still stumped about Valentine’s Day, I obviously have not taught you well. As you might have guessed, you really don’t need an actual present to make today special. You had 30 days of practice. Now go put it to good use!

[You can still use the "MOMINATRIX" code for 15% off at Eden Fantasys. Better late than never]

Congratulations for completing all 31 challenges, or at least sticking around to watch the madness. It’s been an exciting month – not just because we’ve done a sexually-related activity for every day this month, but even better, we’ve made some great strides in our own sexuality and in that of our relationships.

Plus, it’s been fabulous meeting a whole slew of new people that I would never have met before.

If you’re wondering what’s next, stay tuned:

• A valentine’s Day Gift Guide
• “I’m a Mominatrix” interviews
• Mominatrix book tour stops
• Mom 2.0 Speaking engagement
• BlogHer 2010 Speaking engagement

And that’s just the beginning.

I’d love to hear from you – what would you like more of as 2010 gets under way. Aside from the regular bi-monthly column and weekly podcasts, what do you need more of?

And don’t forget to send in your blog posts so that you can be entered in the big grand prize giveaway from Eden Fantasys. Make sure to read the rules – posts date anytime today (and all throughout the month of January) will be eligible.

Well now, I hope that all parties involved were pleased yesterday, and you’re ready to tackle Challenge #30 today.

I must say that I am so appreciative of all the emails and the comments about how the 2010: A Sexual Resolution has helped you. We’re going to keep it up and running (well, not the daily blogging part – but the 30 challenges) so that if folks missed out for January, they can try it for February (or beyond).

If you’re looking to find me after this month is over, you can listen to my weekly Mominatrix podcast (or download it via iTunes so you can listen to it later on) and read my bi-monthly sex column. Also, make sure to check back on my events page to see if I’m coming to a town near you. Next up – Boston! But then Houston and DC in March.

Now for the ultimate Challenge #31: Do as many challenges as you can in one day and night

WHOO!

That’s right. Head over to the Sexual Resolution page and see what you can do. Make it a fabulously sexy Sunday to end what has been an amazing January.

And make sure you come back tomorrow because I might have a little surprise for all of you. It’ll be worth it. I PROMISE.

Please don’t forget to send me your blog posts – remind your friends on Twitter & Facebook if you know they’ve been participating. I want to be sure you all are entered in the big whopping grand prize. And if you’ve won something this month, hold tight. I’ll be sending your info over to Eden Fantasys and they’ll be sure to get your prizes out to you soon. And if you’re looking to order something for Valentine’s Day – use the code “MOMINATRIX” to get 15% off your order there.

So folks – I’m hoping your feed readers and twitter followers are stocked full of sexy bloggers. Who knew you’d be doing that with a Sexual Resolution? Everyone thought we’d be pounding it hard all month long.

I suppose Challenge #29 is a bit more expected, but still exciting nonetheless. I wonder – who’s the better giver and who’s the better receiver in your duo.

Now a few of you noticed that I’ve been tweeting “only one more challenge left.” And it’s true. I’m only going to do 30 official challenges. It just sounds better for people to do 30 than 31 if they want to try again on another month.

However, since I did sort of promise 31, there will be a doozy for Sunday!

Please please make sure you’re updating your blogs because I want you to be entered to win the big, huge awesome grand prize! You can send your entries to: mominatrixbook[at]gmail[dot]com. Read the Eden Fantasys giveaway post for specific details.

So tomorrow’s Challenge #30: Sex with the lights on

You laugh. And I say, YES! Lights on.

I realize that many of you already do this, and good on you. But many couples don’t, particularly after having kids, and so I think you’ve worked your way up to this one.

If you do have sex with the lights on all the time, then enjoy. End your Sexual Resolution with a big bang (though #31 is good, I promise).

But if you haven’t had sex with the lights on in awhile, then here are a few tips.

1. Be strategic (i.e. you don’t need to have a spotlight on your ass – mood lighting is still nice)

2. Cover up if you feel uncomfortable (there are lots of sexy things you can wear to cover up if you’re feeling self-conscious

3. Take advantage of the lights being on (make eye contact, watch your partner, the list goes on

So, spill it – do you dig sex with the lights on, or does it make you cringe?

Well now. How did your little (or big) butt adventure go?

Today’s challenge (#28) will give you a little breather, but challenges like this are just as important as actually doing some sort of sexual act. Plus, you can get some much information from savvy sexy bloggers (and tweeters).

So start compiling your lists, add some blogs to your readers, and follow some new tweeters! And make sure you let me know about your blog and twitter handle (if I don’t follow you!).

Also, don’t miss the Mominatrix podcast today. We’ve got a special guest from Eden Fantasys on discussing girl (and boy) watching. Do you get jealous if your spouse checks out other people? Or do you just join in on the fun? You can chat and listen live at 10:30am EST or download the archives via iTunes.

Okay so Challenge #29 (woohoo!): Mutuality & Reciprocity

There’s always a time and place for performing something on or for your partner without asking for anything in return. But not for this challenge. I want you to perform an act on each other at the same time, or in succession.

You can figure out who gets to go first, or what you get to do to each other, but dual pleasure can be extremely satisfying for both parties – in fact, it can really enhance your own experience if you’re giving pleasure to someone else while you’re getting it.

So go forth! And know that we’ve only got ONE DAY LEFT. We’re going to have some super duper fun on Sunday. So get ready!

Also, a bunch of awesome people have been doing giveaways of the Mominatrix book, so if you’re looking to win it (or too cheap to buy it – ha!), you can find it at Momma Said and the Rookie Moms are giving away the book along with a few other goodies. And keep in mind, Valentine’s Day is coming up!