Obama vs. McCain; Are you ready to get the Government you deserve? UPDATE: VOTE!!!


Okay, while The Imperfect Parent strives to be non-partisan, we thought we’d give our readers a rare opporunity on this blog to express their opinions and give you a forum to support and respectfully debate the current issues leading to a critical decision this pending election.
Please keep in mind, — be civil and respectful and remember, just because someone has negative or opposing opinions about your candidate, doesn’t mean they’re a “bad” person or that they’re dumb. The only dumb people are those who don’t vote. Be there or be square on Tuesday, November 4th and post your reactions here.
Happy politicking.
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UPDATE:
Who wants to predict the outcome? Will we know today or even at the end of the week? Could this decision change everyone’s life forever?
Please, take advantage of our precious freedom and vote!
Also, be sure to check out Julie’s new column today, to see who’s voice she’s really missing right now.
Cash for grades?
Chicago’s mayor, Mayor Daley, has started doling out cash to students of poverty that make the grade. Chicago Public Schools, arguably one of the most dismal school districts in the country, is paying students up to $4,000 for straight A’s and $1600 for straight C’s.
The mayor argues that “rich”, “suburban” parents pay and reward their children for good grades, so why shouldn’t children of poverty be rewarded for good grades too? But, is it the general public’s responsibility to pay other people’s children for getting good grades and does money for grades really work? Is this going to turn the Chicago Public School achievement around?
Most importantly, do you pay your children for good grades and does it work?
Daley weighed in for the first time on the “Green for Grades” controversy, one day after the first $265,986 in cash rewards were distributed to 1,650 Chicago Public School students.
Critics contend that the bounties are tantamount to “bribery” and that long-term success depends on self-motivation and the love of learning.
Daley strongly disagreed.
Jenny McCarthy is an idiot
Since we look to Hollywood to shape our political views, why not our medical ones as well? Actresses Jenny McCarthy and Amanda Peet are having a bit of a spat over the subject of vaccinations. See, McCarthy, who thinks showing off your surgically enhanced tits makes you an expert in human anatomy, has been very vocal about the MMR vaccine being the cause of her son’s autism — a link that has not been scientifically proven — while Peet is champion of vaccinations, calling anti-vac parents “parasites” in a recent interview. But what really takes the cake is that McCarthy claims to know not only caused her son Evan’s autism, but says she has also found a “cure” for the disease as well. McCarthy has been giving her son vitamin B-12 shots, as well as keeping him on a strict diet, methods she says helped him “recover”. When asked about the science behind all these notions, she stated, “My science is Evan, and he’s at home. That’s my science.” To quote her famous live-in boyfriend, “Well, alrighty then!!”
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Jon and Kate Plus 8: The ones we love to hate

Well, it’s been almost a year since I wrote my first critical post on Jon and Kate Gosselin. Of course I had no idea what I was getting into. Never could I have imagined that a reality TV show would be met with such ardent opinions, with Kate Gosselin turning out to be quite a polarizing figure. The very mention of Kate Gosselin to those who have caught the show conjures up resentment on one side and admiration, and even sympathy (dare I say “pity”), on the other.
I have mentally divided the “pro” Kate crowd and the “anti” Kate crowd and even though I don’t watch the show on a regular basis (I lost a lot of interest after the first few seasons), I do happen to catch it once in a while. I was never a super-fan, but found some redeeming values in Jon and Kate and can now admit after catching a few reruns that I really can’t stand Kate Gosselin. There, I said it. Now, lest I be associated with the obsessive-stalking-loathing-Kate camp, I wouldn’t waste anymore bandwidth on the subject matter than this post is taking up. Subscribing to the KIA philosophy (Kate is an a-hole), is priority number 16,232, after plucking a stray eyelash out of my eyelid. And even though I have come to terms with the disgust for this woman, I’m not as prepared to run with the KIA crowd. In no way do I want it to be part of my identity. First of all, I have many internet friends who happen to like her, and I have been known to reach across party lines to embrace those with differing opinions [Ed. note: You're such a maverick]. Second of all, I kinda like having my very own villain. Even if it doesn’t make a lot of sense, I kept on watching the reruns while cursing at the television. In fact, the more angry I got, the more I stayed glued.
So, either Kate Gosselin is an a-hole and doesn’t care, or she’s an a-hole who knows how to keep viewers entranced or enraged. After all, Howard Stern gained his popularity by listeners that hated him more so than from listeners that loved him. Something tells me that she isn’t that smart though.
Or is she?
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Shoes any mom will love
So, I’m in the market for some black pumps. But like a lot of working moms out there, finding time to sneak off on my own for an extensive bout of shoe shopping can be somewhat… challenging. I made the mistake of trying to take a peek at a few shoes today while shopping for gym shoes for my oldest son — which I’m sure anyone who has taken two kids under 10 along shopping already knows that was a completely pointless exercise.
Well, I’m an online shopping kind of gal, anyway, so I decided to go that route instead. I’ve bought from Zappos before, pretty painless. They have “free” shipping — free for anyone who is dumb enough to never have comparison shopped and noticed that the shipping is built into the price. But more importantly, they have free shipping back to them if it doesn’t work out.
So, I’m browsing through the pumps, trying to figure out which ones won’t hurt my toes, and I came across the most beautiful, practical, and mom friendly shoes I have ever found in my life, especially for a “working girl” like me. In fact, they impressed me so much, next time a family member or friend is about to birth their next baby, I know exactly what to get them for their trip home from the hospital…
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Economic meltdown, are you worried?
What a crazy few weeks it’s been.
The news is so depressing — we have financial advisors warning of the next coming of the Great Depression. Everything seems to be going to hell in a handbasket. Financial institutions that have been around since the civil war are going belly up, fall-out from sub-prime loans based on a housing boom built upon ninja loans.
It’s the talk of the office. Everything is doom and gloom and wondering what is going to happen to their house, their lifestyle, their families. It’s enough to make you wanna pull the covers over your eyes and say, “Wake me when it’s all over.”
The cost of living is supposed to sky-rocket while our assets will continue to plumet. They call it a combination that we’ve never seen before — inflation, deflation and stag-flation all at once.
Are the bail-outs the answer?
During this tough economic time, neither presidential candidate is telling us the truth. Entitlement programs continue to put our national deficit into crisis mode and bankrupcy while one candidate is talking about adding more entitlement programs, the other is resting on the ones we have, but isn’t willing to reform them in the way we need to. This isn’t a partisan issue, it’s about telling the American public the truth. Can’t we all make the sacrifices, if our leaders and future leaders actually told us the truth?
I heard the other night on CNN, with social security and Medicare/Medicaid going completely broke before the baby boomers even start to really collect on it, we would have to tax everyone 90% in order to pay for it. So why aren’t our leaders telling us this? Right now, Medicare is being fully funded by China. If they were to collect on their debt, what would happen?
How do you feel about the future? Is anybody as nervous as I am about your future and the future of your children?
One piece of solace I keep in mind, in the late 70’s when we weren’t able to buy meat except for very rare and special occassions (it was just too expensive) and we waited in long lines for gas, my mother reminds me that the world was gloating that America was over, that we would never come back…and we did. Yes, we did.
Is this American, damnit! Or is this America, sigh, damn-it-all?
I don’t know what the answer is. We all know the market needs to correct itself and that loans to people that can’t afford them is a recipe for disaster. But, what about reforming Medicare and Social Security? It’s only because politicians don’t want to lose the old folk vote that they refuse to step up and do what is needed. I find that repulsive, don’t you? Power is more important than making sure our children don’t inherit a life under the rule of China or working until they’re dead, but having nothing to show for it? How is that fair?
I would be willing to work until I’m 80 in order to give my kids a better life and when it comes down to it, we might all have to. Would you do it, or would you rather have 70% taxes and simply change all of our lifestyles so that none of us has the ability to get new cell phones or appliances. We simply make due with what we have. To live on 30% of what we make, we would have to triple our salaries in order to maintain our lifestyles. Is that the answer? I just don’t know…
New Feature: Silence is not an Option
Today we debuted a new Imperfect Parent feature called “Silence is not an Option“. This feature will run monthly and include stories and reports on child abuse, child neglect, child abusers, the department of family and child services, and child advocacy etc.. This month’s feature is written by child advocate, Robert Green.

Robert’s piece, “Why do drug addicted parents retain custody of their children?”, focuses on mothers who abuse drugs that result in deadly consequences.
Please help us in welcoming Robert to the IP family!
Imperfect Blogger awards!
It’s finally here! Thank your lucky stars you have children and you’re not afraid to shake your head in wonderment over where it all went horribly wrong.
From here on forward, each week, we’re going to reward bloggers from around the web for putting their wrought into words.
You, and only you alone, will have the power to nominate your favorite blogging parent who embodies the quintessential Imperfect Parent spirit. If you come along a post in your daily reads that makes you think, laugh or say to yourself, “I can’t believe he/she said that! I also can’t believe I didn’t say it first!”, or a post which takes you to inner most depths of parenting hell, where it’s so spectacular and real you actually feel the heat from the flames, this is your chance to make it known.
Nominations can be submitted here. Posts must be current (within the last 30 days). The Imperfect Parent Editors will deliberate tirelessly over your nominations weekly to pick a winner. That week’s winner will be highlighted here on the Imperfect Parent blog, and they will also get a nifty button to put on their website.
At the end of the month, that month’s winners will enter a cage match to the death be voted on by you, the wise and powerful public, and the one with the most votes will be crowned our Imperfect Blogger of the Month. They will also receive our highly coveted “Major Award”. We are not revealing what the award is, but we will say that it will be better than a kick in the crotch.
The product of a reality TV lovin’ mama
My 5 year old son is definitely the product of his mom’s love for reality television.
Yesterday, I caught him playing American Idol in his room. He was playing the part of Ryan Seacrest, so he lined up his stuffed animals (who he affectionately calls his “guys”). “Sprinkles” the penguin was first, “Sprinkles, Simon said you weren’t at your best last night…did America agree?…We’ll find out after the break.”
“Sprinkles, you are SAFE!”
Then Minnie Mouse was marched out to the pretend stage, “Minnie, I’m sorry, this is the end of the road for you.”
He does the same thing with Deal or No Deal. I often find him with his Curious George monkey, “You are kinda freakin’ out, aren’t you? It’s your choice. Will you take the deal?”
He told me the other night that when he’s 18 he’s going on American Idol and he’s going to win. I guess I’d better invest in some music lessons.
Crack. Me. Up.
Wondering if anybody else out there has an inspiring star and if they would nurture it?
I have no interest. If he wants to pursue it, I’d let him and I’d support him, but I’ve read that David Archuleta’s father is a slave driver and berates him if he does poorly. What makes a parent take it from the cute, stuffed animal play to coaching them into a life of strict discipline and focus?
BPA: Worst Chemical in the World
BPA — or bisphenol-a to you nerdy types — has been in the news a lot lately. Wal-Mart and Toys ‘R Us are the latest to listen to consumer demand (go free market!) and are starting to pull baby bottles containing BPA. Canada’s push for a full ban is moving forward, and more and more companies are starting to manufacture BPA-free alternatives. Why? Because experiments on lab animals has linked BPA to “changes in the brain, early puberty, and possible tumors.” Not exactly something you want to make it’s way into your baby’s body (or yours for that matter — Nalgene, a manufacturer of reusable drinking bottles, is also starting to phase out BPA in its production process).
We’re certainly not ones to shy away from a trend when there’s good science and our kids’ health involved, so we’ve convinced Medela to give away a Breastmilk Feeding & Storage Set containing three BPA-free bottles, lids and nipples, to 5 of our lucky readers to get started down a toxin-free path. (Pssst, we have a sneaky feeling these bottles would be just fine for formula feeding as well.) The entry form is here.
Ed. note: The Imperfect Parent did not receive any compensation for this post
My Beautiful Mommy
Okay, this is why the terrorists hate us…
A recently published book teaches children how to cope with their mommies surgical makeovers. This is not a joke, it’s a children’s book written by a plastic surgeon who wants children to appreciate their mother’s need and the importance of having a perfect nose and looking good.
For more on this soon to be children’s literary classic, “My Beautiful Mommy” by Dr. Michael Salzhauer:
That’s exactly the question Salzhauer’s book tries to answer, chronicling the journey of a mother and her child as they visit the fictional office of the fictional, strapping “Dr. Michael” for cosmetic surgery.
“Why are you going to look different?” asks the daughter of her mother in the car ride back from the doctor’s office.
“Not just different, my dear — prettier!” exclaims the mother.
Now we just need a children’s book that explains why mommy won’t mingle with those who drive Hyundais, shop at Walmart and buy knockoff Crocs.
Heard on the Net: “Gay Day” at Disney
Recently I stumbled upon a parenting debate about whether or not parents would take their children to “Gay Day” at Disney World. Although “Gay Day” isn’t an officially sponsored event, it is an organized one. In case you’re not familiar with it, one day out of the year gay couples, with or without children, go to Disney World to experience the park as the majority.
What caught my eye was the following comment on pregnancy.org:
So now you understand why there is a need for “gay day”…’cause every other day is “hetero day” at Disney World (and everywhere else), and it’s tough to have everything catered to another group’s interests. Doesn’t feel so good when you don’t see your family and your own family values widely represented, does it?
That statement seemed so ridiculous to me. Why does anyone’s and everyone’s interests have to be widely represented anyway? My question has nothing to do with whether or not I “agree” with the “gay lifestyle”. I couldn’t care less about that.
For some reason, this reminds me of the times when I’ve been in the minority. At one of my past jobs, I went looking for a daycare for my older son who was about 3 years old at the time. Lucky for me, there was a Montessori across the street. How convenient was that? So, I made an appointment to take a tour and given that the company was located smack dab in the middle of “Korean Town”, all the children and staff were Korean. I’m not exaggerating. There was not one other ethnicity represented besides Korean.
I kept an open mind looking at Korean lesson plans on the teacher’s desks and when I received an awkward outsider reception from the Administrator. As convenient as it might have been, I decided against sending him there. I didn’t want my son to feel like the odd kid out if I didn’t have to. I also saw no reason to submerge into a culture at 3 years old that he would likely not appreciate or understand. Granted, kids are resilient and he would have adapted, and probably learned some interesting differences, but I would have preferred a more diverse group. It had nothing to do with hate or racism or prejudice, but of cultural comfort. That is why a Korean Montessori exists to begin with — in order to find that comfort and simpatico and preserve a unique culture.
My point being, the commenters accusing those who don’t want to go to “Gay Day” as hateful and ignorant, aren’t they contradicting themselves when they point out that gay couples don’t want to have to always conform to the interests of straight people and the majority?
Human nature dictates that people like to be around people like them, even those who are the most accepting and tolerant people in the world.
I have to wonder if the people accusing others of being hateful have made a point to live in an area outside their own race and common interests? I’m sure the answer is no.
My son’s first BFF
My husband and I decided to throw our son his first birthday party at age 5 — the first official birthday party we’ve thrown for him, not because we didn’t want to, but because it’s the first time that he really gets it.
See, a year ago, he was diagnosed with “Aspergers with Hyperlexia”, which is kind of a new way of defining Savantism. So, the last 5 years have been interesting, to say the least. “G” is unique. While fairly unnoticeable to the average spectator, he doesn’t engage with other children except his older brother. He never asks about other children, he never shows an interest in any sort of friendship. He has no use for kids his age really.
Well, last year, I made the very difficult decision to move him from a special ed. school opting to mainstream him into a Montessori school. Even though I’m not really a Montessori fan per se — it’s a little too fairy godmother for my tastes — I felt that the special ed school was holding him back in many ways.
Furious, the special ed school made no effort to hold back their displeasure with my decision and basically told me that I would being doing G a disservice (hence: you are a bad mom). I questioned myself many times, but after consulting with a world renowned expert in G’s “condition”, he succeeded in convincing me G was misplaced.
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When parent’s good intentions go horribly wrong…
I suppose all parenting is based on some sort of ideology, but when does ideology interfere and cross the line of what is in a child’s best interest?
It’s too bad that far too often, a parent’s desire to influence a social movement leaves them vulnerable in order to make a point or act in protest.
For example, and I know this is a touchy subject with some, but parents who refuse to vaccinate their children, claiming that it’s all part of some conspiracy theory to line the pockets of pharmaceutical companies. Many parents are so busy trying to find ways that vaccinations cause more harm than good, I think they forgot why vaccines were introduced to begin with. How much evidence does one need to make the logical conclusion that your political gain may compromise the health of your child?
For example, a recent Measles outbreak in San Diego:
On Jan. 25, the 7-year-old’s parents took the youngster to the Children’s Clinic of La Jolla. The child may have coughed and sneezed in the office, thus infecting four other children.
Those four patients returned to the clinic between Feb. 5 and 8, possibly spreading the virus to 60 other children.
All of the 11 confirmed patients, from 10 months to 9 years old, were not vaccinated either because they were younger than 1 – the minimum age for measles inoculation – or because their parents objected to having them vaccinated, county officials said.
…and, although it has NEVER been proven that vaccinations cause Autism, and countless studies fail to even make a link, there are still those holdouts that don’t care what science has to offer, the political statement of pharma vitriol means more to them than what they consider to be a minuscule risk. Nevermind that the risk WIDENS and INCREASES as more and more parents decide not to vaccinate. (Oh, the irony!) Facts, in these cases, don’t seem to be a priority.
One physician tries to uncover the psychology of it all…
It seems to have taken on a life of its own and may be a good example of a socio-psychological phenomenon known as “groupthink,” a mode of thinking that people engage in when they are deeply involved in a cohesive group.
There may be many parents who will never be convinced that the benefits of immunization for their children in most cases outweigh the risks. In free countries, that is their prerogative and I, as a physician, accept that.
Society must understand that such convictions must not dictate public health policy. Failure to offer people a sound vaccination program would no doubt result in a resurgence of contagions such as polio, measles, and heaven forbid, perhaps even smallpox, should the wild virus ever be reintroduced into the world.
The human toll in lives and suffering, long forgotten by our postmodern world, would be incalculable in a jet age which rapidly spreads infectious disease to all continents.
I’m sure we all have different, conflicting examples of “group think” and some “group think” is beneficial to a child, like the disdain of child abuse, but when does group think interfere with our own sensibilities? I think the Internet, for better or worse, has propagated much of this and found validations for practices in which some critical thinking would go a long way. I can think of a bunch just off the top of my head, can’t you?
Nigella Lawson Cuts Kids Out of Will
Nigella Lawson, the daughter of a wealthy couple and wife to one of the wealthiest men in England, has said that she will leave her children not one penny. Claiming that she had to work hard for the money and that inherited wealth makes people weak, she boasts about her plans to exclude them from the family’s riches.
From the Daily Mail…
As the daughter of a former Conservative chancellor, Nigella Lawson knows a thing or two about privileged upbringing.
But when it comes to raising her own children, the celebrity chef clearly believes in tough love.
She shares an estimated wealth of more than £110million with her husband, the marketing guru Charles Saatchi, and has a £7million London home.
However, Miss Lawson says she will leave none of it to her offspring.
It is not a decision with which her husband agrees.
Mr Saatchi, 64, is adamant that the children should be allowed to inherit the couple’s wealth - and the subject causes more than a little discord between them, according to Miss Lawson.
Mr Saatchi has one daughter, 12-year-old Phoebe from his first marriage.
Miss Lawson, 48, has two children, 13-year-old daughter Cosima and son Bruno, 11, from her marriage to the late journalist John Diamond.
I say you work for your children. I’m by no means wealthy or even comfortable, perhaps middle class but one thing that has always been certain, whatever is mine is my children’s and if one day I can afford to contribute generously to their house budget or cars or special gifts, it will be my honor to do so.
What is good enough for the goose (and it looks like she’s eaten her fair share), is most certainly good enough for the gander. Why she thinks that the fortunes that were awarded to her should not be shared with her children is just selfish and ruthless in my opinion. Perhaps if she didn’t want life-long responsibility, she shouldn’t of even had children to begin with. No matter anyway, my guess is when they are older those kids won’t be coming over for Christmas dinner to a mansion and privilege that they are no longer privy to.
Heard on the net - The ol’ soap in the mouth trick
I remember, when I was a kid, a neighbor boy had the mouth of drunken sailor and at age 6, his fundamentally religious mother was not amused. It was the first time I witnessed somebody punishing another human with a cleanser. This was the 70s, so I believed she used Zest bar soap. It wasn’t pretty and it didn’t stop the kid from cursing up a storm at any given moment outside his home. It was gross, but he lived to tell the tale and continue to be a little jerk. I actually wish his mother did the soap punishment more often, because the kid was bad news and he was super creepy. His mother was really nice, but I think he was screwed up because his mom was too busy praying and making him read the Bible than because of the soap in the mouth.
…but I digress. On MotheringDotCommune, I read about an instance where Mother A was at Mother B’s house, picking up Mother A’s child from a play date. Mother A asked her kid to pick up and she said no. Mother A then marches the child into Mother B’s kitchen and squirts soap in her mouth.
Whoa! That mutha means business!!
This got the mothers on the forum into a tizzy. From the preponderance of deciding whether or not you can dictate what punishments parents are allowed to use in your home to the suggestion to call family services on the mother and whether or not that constituted child abuse and potentially removing the child from the mother’s care. As if they don’t have anything better to worry about.
Changing a child’s name
A select group of parents around the country are deciding, in effort to be the trendiest and most creative suburban, mini-van driving, non-descript baby naming artists of the world — that they’ll just change their child’s name if their child’s name isn’t found to be cool enough.
What a bunch of arseholes. That’s all I have to say.
In her first few years, 6-year-old Sophie Sauber’s parents, Rob Sauber and Suzanne Ramljak, of Connecticut, were overwhelmed by the number of Sophies they encountered daily. Four out of 13 kids in their daughter’s preschool class were named Sophie, and other parents were constantly yelling it at the mall. When Sophie was almost 4, they asked how she’d feel about being called Isadora, a name they’d considered before she was born.
“She understood our reasoning and liked the name. We weren’t going to force her,” says Ramljak. One day, after a trial period of a couple of months, she introduced herself as Isadora. “It was like, ‘That’s her name now!’”
Noting that by 12 months children already recognize the sound of their names, Dr. Karla Umpierre, a Miami psychologist and family counselor, encourages parents to get the child’s input and approval if they decide to change the name after age 2. “It’s best to change the name before then, because by 2 or 3 they have a sense of identity, and it could send mixed messages. The child might ask himself, ‘Do you want to change me?’”
Heard on the net - “Birth Rape”
Okay, so our site logs lead me to it…a breastfeeding.com thread in which a link to an Imperfect Parent column sparked many tangents on a debate board. Kelly Cunningham’s essay, “Don’t Even Bother: The Case Against Childbirth Education Calsses” was the target of scoff in a thread entitled: Everything wrong with birth in our birth culture. Basically, the old “natural birth vs. assisted birth” debate made for old-school debate fodder when it took a surprisingly sharp turn into the bowels of maternal control and rage, accusing doctors who intervened during the sacred process of birthing and interfering with their birthing desires, as a crime and psychological significant of being raped.
Then they argued as to whether it was rape or assault and who had actually been raped and who was qualified to categorize it as “rape”.
Yep. They call it “birth rape”.
So to all the fine, imperfect people out there, can medical intervention be classified as “rape”, if it is against the implied, specific or vague birth plan of the mother? If you wish to read where the “birth rape” started, go to page 33, post #323.
Nobody’s named John or Michael anymore…
Last weekend, I took the kids out and about for errands and more Christmas shopping. I tend to bribe them more when they’re being good than when they’re naughty and it just happened to be a good day for us. Saturdays are usually our McDonald’s day — they have their ration of chicken nuggets and fries about once a week. Judge if you wish, but mind your own business because I’m not looking for advice, m’kay?
So, after McDonald’s, haircuts, doctors appointments, errands, and holiday shopping, I offered to take the kids for more crappy food-stuffs and stop by our local, old-fashioned candy store.
“Yay!”
I was their favorite parent.
So, we get there and I hand them their own bucket and give them a budget of $2 each. The store has a lot of 2 cent candies, so they can stretch their dollars. I saw a chocolate snowman I thought my youngest would like and called out, “Graham! Graham! Look what I found!”
Then, this middle-aged, Nosey-Nelly turns to me and asks, “Did you say, “Graham”? Is his name Graham??”
Completely expecting her to tell me that was her deceased husband’s name or something by the way she was so shocked, I replied, “Yes. Graham.”
“Oh, dear,” she says, nose turned up. “Nobody’s named John or Michael anymore. It’s all these names you’ve never heard of.”
“I believe Graham is actually a pretty common British name.” I turned up my nose back at her.
How insulting is that? I felt like she was accusing my kids of being named some goofy, yuppy-centric, stupid-spelling, made up name. I hate those names. That’s not me at all. I wish I knew where she lived, I would either stalk her until she understood that I’m not that guy or I would egg her car.
Reverse Sexism?
Although this ruling was made in England, I have to believe U.S. courts would take a similar position. Here’s the question: if a woman gets pregnant, does she have the right to withhold that information from the father and her family and put the baby up for adoption? I know this probably happens every day, but is it right?
The woman then took the case to the Court of Appeal, where the judges ruled that no steps should be taken to identify the father or tell him about the child, now 19 weeks old.
There was also an order barring the authority from introducing the baby to any of the mother’s family to assess them as potential carers.
They had learned about the child only when the local authority made inquiries.
Lady Justice Arden, sitting with Lord Justice Thorpe and Lord Justice Lawrence Collins, said this was not a violation of the father’s rights to family life under the Human Rights Act because he had no rights to be violated.
Woman have spent years and years trying to bridge the social gap between the sexes, disseminating any preconceived differences, yet in this case, the woman clearly has more rights to a child than the biological father. Why? Isn’t the child just as much his as it is hers? Does one sex automatically mean “ownership” of a child? What if that “ownership” isn’t in their best interest? Is it better for a baby to be adopted out, rather than custody be given to the father?
Isn’t making that automatic assumption sexism in reverse??
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