Is it okay to tell your kid they’ve lost your support if they go on a murderous rampage? Photo via Plrang.
The parents of James Holmes, the asshole who open fired on innocent people last week, killing women and children and leaving behind a barrage of pain as the families of the 12 murdered people, have vowed to “support” their son.
James’ parents, Arlene Holmes, a registered nurse, and father, a senior scientist at FICO in San Diego, have not yet spoken to the press about their deranged, mad-man son except to issue a statement through their lawyer claiming they are cooperating with police and that they support their son. However, rumors have surfaced that the couple are not, in fact, cooperating with police and truly standing behind their son, whether it’s the insanity plea or the simple act of forgiveness blurring their sense of obligation between parents and their child.
The Holmes’, whom neighbors say are highly respected, God fearing people with a reputation of being upstanding people within their community have been on the down lo outside of their public statement saying their hearts go out to “those who were involved in this tragedy and to the families and friends of those involved.”
Notice how the parents didn’t say “victims”?? They chose to say “to those who were involved”, as if the now deceased by way of cold blooded murder voluntarily decided to become their crazy-ass son’s target practice bullseye.
I think all of this is very telling. It’s one thing to love your children, it’s another to stand by them no matter what.
Now let it be known, I am of the camp that family is family only to a certain point.
While you may go on loving the family member, standing by atrocious, unspeakable crimes is it going too far in the other direction, bordering on enabling to support a man who took a 6-year-old’s life for sport?
Do the Holmes parents feel guilty? Is that why they are showing such loyalty? Or have they always given James whatever he wanted and more, raising him with the expectation that he can do as he pleases without retribution? Or were they abusive? Or is James just a complete fucking wackadoo pond scum, skidmark on your pants, gum on your shoe psychopathic sewer waste of which his parents believe was acting upon a random, bad day?
I am of the belief, just because someone is your son or daughter, doesn’t mean they are forgiven no matter what hell they rain down on society or absolute disregard they have for life. If you can say you did your best in child rearing and provided a safe environment, along with nurturing encouragement, then you have done all you can do. If your child turns out to be some deranged lunatic, that is not your fault, but it doesn’t mean you have to embrace him either.
Wrong is wrong.
Evil is evil.
A waste of human breath is just that.
Just because someone is related to you doesn’t mean they can or should expect your love and support irregardless of their behavior. If the Holmes were adequate parents, they have done their jobs. There is no need, in my opinion, for them to help him shirk any miniscule bit of responsibility he needs to own, otherwise, they are simply being complicit in his crimes and delusions.
The views, opinions and information expressed in articles and blog posts published on imperfectparent.com and all subdomains are those of the authors alone. They do not represent the views or opinions of The Imperfect Parent or its staff, nor do they represent the views or opinions of any entity of, or affiliated with, Imperfect Parent. The Imperfect Parent
is designed for entertainment
purposes only and is not meant to be a substitute for medical, health,
legal, or financial advice from a professional.
of material from any of Imperfect Parent's pages without written
permission is strictly prohibited.