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Embracing my inner bad parent

Posted July 8, 2008 at 7:42 pm by Kymberly

That’s it. I’m done.
There is just only so much I can obsessively worry over and seriously? I’ve hit my limit.

Childhood obesity, white sugar, processed flour, artificial sweeteners, too much tv, not enough reading, lead in toys, toxic mold, toxic new homes, global warming, bullies, low self-esteem, high-self esteem, athletics v. academics, No Child Left Behind, whether seeing your parents naked will result in future therapy and how expensive might that be?

Whew. As someone who literally does “lie awake at night” worrying, this really cannot be good for any of us. Where is the study about what happens to kids with cranky, overwrought parents too tired to think straight? At what point do you have to start paring down your worries? There are only so many hours in the day and frankly, I may have to cast off lead and global warming.

Nutrition and obesity (although both my kids are slim) bears watching. Pedophiles and molestation I’m never going to quit worrying over. My kids will be 40 I’ll still wonder if they should ride their bikes alone. Seriously.

However, when do you just decide to put other worries on the back burner? To just start letting go of pretending we can protect our children from everything?

 Here’s the thing kids. I’ll recycle when I can but I think you are probably right to suspect I may be leaving the world a lesser place than I found it. We all are. Sorry about that but short of keeping my plastics out of the paper bins, I’m not sure what I can realistically do for you there.

The Lead Menace? Yawn. Overrated. Sorry but if lead is so scary why are all our parents and grandparents and the entire Baby Boom generation not brain damaged? Oh wait, scratch that …

 I’m not going to relax on “running with scissors” but I AM going to relax on the numerous things I cannot control RIGHT NOW. Or could lie awake nights fretting over to no avail.

So, um, eat your peas. Sit back from the TV. Read a book once in a while. Don’t chew the windowsills. Stay in my sight AT ALL TIMES and remember I love you even if I forget to worry about everything else under the sun.

And oh, that reminds me, I’ve got to worry about the sun …

So, what have you simply let go of worrying about?

More importantly, how guilty do you think we should feel about it?

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4 Responses to “Embracing my inner bad parent”

1. Daren

July 9, 2008 @ 9:13 am

I gave up worrying about lead, that chemical in plastics, too much of this or that, not enough of this or that (play/toy wise), eating sand, picking up bugs, sanitizing every surface before the kids touch it (carts, etc.), forcing them to meet milestones with every other child on earth and just how much I’m screwing this up.

I suppose I should feel pretty guilty but, to be honest, I don’t. I’ve finally decided that they are kids and as long as they’re eating relatively right and getting relatively alot of exercise and stimulation, they’ll be fine.

2. Allison G.

July 9, 2008 @ 11:51 am

Having had my son go through a bout of e.Coli, I will never stop worrying about if my kids are washing their hands enough, whacking them in the back of the head for puutting their mouths on the shopping cart, or wondering if the kids meals they’re about to eat are tainted.

Global warming? The Earth was very hot millions of years ago. That’s why dinosaurs were everywhere. Then the Ice Age hit hard and fast. That’s why dinos became extinct, and scientists found a Mammoth near Siberia with undigested flowers still in its belly. Well, now the Earth is finally returning to its natural hot state. Just like steaks for dinner tonight, the Earth is thawing. There’s nothing we can do about it.

I recycle when I can. But I probably break a lot of “Recycling Rules”. I don’t peel labels or wash out cans. Pizza boxes go right in. And I though you could put plastic flower pots in your regular recycle bin, but I found out otherwise at the mobile “Household Waste Day” that rolled into town this Spring. And I throw away C, D, and AA batteries which they said is a no-no.(hey, at least I recycled our old motor oil and computer. 40 years ago, stuff like that went down the drain or in regular trash)

Now, the Economy pisses me off. Shit is just too expensive anymore. Gas prices are killing lower-class families. Semi-truck drivers are losing money every day. Grocery prices are through the roof as a result. Wacky housing markets are putting families in the streets or financial ruins. Education costs are astronomical considering many grads have a hard time finding jobs once they finish school, thus little or no income to pay off student loans. Banks keep shoving credit card offers at people, and those who are in desparation keep digging themselves deeper. The wrong people are getting richer. The “worker bees” are struggling while the “queens” of the corps we work for are basking in the profits, and THAT bugs me…..

(thanks you. I’ll now get down from my soapbox)

3. momof3

July 9, 2008 @ 4:27 pm

Allison G said: “Now, the Economy pisses me off. Shit is just too expensive anymore. Gas prices are killing lower-class families. Semi-truck drivers are losing money every day. Grocery prices are through the roof as a result. Wacky housing markets are putting families in the streets or financial ruins. Education costs are astronomical considering many grads have a hard time finding jobs once they finish school, thus little or no income to pay off student loans. Banks keep shoving credit card offers at people, and those who are in desparation keep digging themselves deeper. The wrong people are getting richer. The “worker bees” are struggling while the “queens” of the corps we work for are basking in the profits, and THAT bugs me…..”

AMEN TO THAT!!! Thank you for saying all the things that are bugging me! There are of course other things too! Pedophiles, nutrition, school, homework, enough exercise, bullies, jobs, money, bills, health and health expenses and so on. But the thing right now that REALLY irks me is that you have to be rich as hell to do almost anything anymore! Gas = expensive. Food = expensive. Vacations = expensive. Schools = expensive. Everything = expensive right now and it sucks! :x

Oh and…why is that all the stars and pro-athlets are making boo-koo bucks for playing dress up and playing a friggin game? When my hubs works his tail off 6 days a week at two jobs and we’re barely making it? AND on top of that the rich stars get free $h#% all the time just b/c the whole world sees them and they are pretty and look good in “their” things! (ok..sorry onto other things!)

Money and my childrens health and happiness are my #1 worrys! I dont think those two will EVER go away. I can try to not worry as much but they’ll always be there, sitting and fermenting in the back of my mind until one day when Ive had enough and will let them all out and cause a huge stink of complaints/worries.

Ive stopped worrying so much about how messy my kids get (theyre kids let them get messy…who cares? NOT ME!), what they have on when we’re just sitting at home (they dont always have to match!), lead toys (yeah, my mom is a baby boomer and shes fine!) and how much they eat at one sitting (dont finish your food…fine…youll be hungry later and this is not a restaraunt, you’ll have to wait for breakfast.).

These are some things that concern me and some things that I dont let concern me anymore. Thanks for letting me rant and rave! :lol:

4. Kymberly

July 13, 2008 @ 1:29 pm

and how much they eat at one sitting (dont finish your food…fine…youll be hungry later and this is not a restaraunt, you’ll have to wait for breakfast.).

I like your attitude! :)

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