This Just In: Pillow Pummeling Heals Hatred
Posted
June 16, 2008 at
12:24 pm by
Kadi
My children hate me. They say so, everday. When they are made to clean up their own messes, stop pummeling their fellow sibling, obey rules of the house, or any other activity that requires self restraint and effort, they react by letting me know just how much they rue the fact that they were not ”born” a manufactured robot and have a human mother, especially me. We butt heads, we bicker and they pack their bags, frequently, threatening to drop off the face of the earth (or at least the face of the “Planet Prescott.”)
Why do I put up with daily verbal abuse, horrendous messes, unfathomable stress and wrinkle inducing situations? I’ll tell you why. Every once in awhile, I get the opportunity to be the mommy they love. I get to lower myself to their level (physically and mentally speaking,) shed my mommy persona and have some unbridled fun time with the little people I created. Suddenly, the shift in character creates a rare, lighthearted mood. They forget to hate me. I transform into a big kid. I am their playmate. I am the instigator of tickle fights and the victim of flying pillows. I get to shun the rules, let my hair down and be the person that my kids wish I could be, all the time. Gone is the person known as “Mom.” My kids love this time of silliness. It creates a renewed bond. The only thing that I regret about this ritual, is that I did not get to do it with my own mom. My mom was so tightly wound, that I never saw her relax, much less smile and have fun. I do not want my kids to remember me that way. I want them to remember that I was a disciplinarian, an imperfect human and (deep down) a silly little girl who loves a good pillow fight.
So, I ask you, “When was the last time you shed your mommy persona?” If you cannot remember, then it has been way too long. Trust me when I tell you that you won’t regret doing it. It will probably shock your kids and tickle them pink. Go ahead…shut down the computer and get out the dress ups. Challenge your teens to a Wii game of tennis. Cook up some silly ideas with your little ones. I guarantee that they will hold these kind of memories close to their hearts, as they get older. Plus, it is really helps prove them wrong when they say that they hate you and you can pull out photographic evidence of them laughing in your arms!
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1. Jessica. said:
June 17, 2008 @ 4:57 pm
Can I just say, I hate kids games. They’re so boring.
I do love to cuddle with my boys though and watch bad reality tv shows. Does that count?
2. Grandma frm Ks. said:
June 18, 2008 @ 1:21 am
Okay Jessica, maybe if you and hubby get busy and have that little girl you would think “yeah I like this” LOL. Kadi, they pack their bags when they are grown and move back in, hate to burst your bubble hon, Just kidding, altho while my son was in Iraq, MDIL was here all the time, which was great, Now the memories, well ppl are probably tired of me saying it, but I live on memories, Some times after hubby goes to bed, I set here in the quiet and cry, my grand children make me cry some times , just thinking back to when mine were that little, my oldest is 44, and I can still see her little blonde curls blowing in the wind, I don’t know if it’s just me getting older or what, but now I certainly know how my mom felt, Any way thats what it’s all about, making memories to cherish, one day you will look and they will be gone. I was a very young momma, and I am so thankful that we chose to have kids early, B/c to be frank, if I had teenagers in my house today, it probably would’nt be pretty (to old fashion), any way sweetie, you make all those memories, house work will always be there little ones won’t.
3. CanadianMom said:
June 18, 2008 @ 12:12 pm
I play with my kids (and their friends) as often as I can. All work and no play makes Mom a bummer.
My fave things to do with my boys is water gun fights. But we also wrestle and tickle, play tag, have races. I am the only Mom on the street who has her own GT (a sled for in the winter)
I am busy like every SAHM, but you gotta let loose every now and then. I have noticed it helps MY day go better too. Kid laughter is the best sound out there. Lifts you up, you know?
4. SHS said:
June 18, 2008 @ 7:23 pm
Love the article…we DO need to be reminded of this. Grandma, I am soooo afraid I am going to be doing that very soon, the crying, that is. My only child is leaving for college in August. Currently she is out of the country…gone for 2 weeks, one to go! I am handling this ok, but college, well, that is different. It is such a mile stone and I know our relationship is going to change. Not necessarily bad, just more like 2 women, not a mom and a kid!
I wish I had played more boring board games Jessica….I hate em too! I too love to snuggle tho and I do think that time counts too!