Love, Marriage, and Babble…
Posted
May 21, 2008 at
1:48 pm by
Tracy
So as many of you know I got MARRIED. Like, officially. I promise tons of photos of my breasts popping out on the dance floor, and my daughter looking edible in her dress, and my husband on the verge of passing out when I edit them so I look 20lbs lighter get them back. Until then, lets discuss my latest saga: leaving the baby with grandma for five days while I go to Asheville North Carolina for my honeymoon.
First let me say I’m so excited I could pee a little. I’m going to sleep in everyday, sit and finish a cup of coffee before it gets cold, read a billion books, go to dinner and take my time, and drink wine…fart around in little shops…. okay I’m drooling a little thinking about it. But I’ve never been apart from my little Junebug for more than a night. I’m the biggest paranoid wimp EVER when it comes to other people taking care of her [cause when it's me and her she almost always ends up with a dog bone in her mouth, or unraveling spools of my ribbon....] Five days is a shit load of time.
You’re probably thinking “that lucky bitch shouldn’t be complaining cause she could just stay HOME..” and if you are thinking that I don’t really care, because as much as I’m going to miss my daughter I do need the time with my husband. So we can be “us” again instead of daddy and momma. Because it’s hard to be all romantic, and lovey when there’s an infant around..because sometimes we need to connect to be better parents and better partners?
Am I right?
Do you think people who go away and leave their babies behind are evil & selfish?
What’s the longest you’ve been away?
Tags: asheville-north-carolina, going-away-with-infant, honeymoon, infant-and-grandparents, traveling-without-infant |
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1. Allison G.
May 21, 2008 @ 2:12 pm
Good for you to get away. To connect. The baby will be fine.
If we don’t connect soon, I’ll probably kill my husband before we hit our 10 year anniversary this summer.
2. Tracy
May 21, 2008 @ 2:37 pm
[quote comment="164913"]Good for you to get away. To connect. The baby will be fine.
If we don’t connect soon, I’ll probably kill my husband before we hit our 10 year anniversary this summer.[/quote]
Yes, I might kill mine as well so this trip is a must! If you’re reading this Phil, I am sorry and by kill you I meant cook you steak
3. Grandma frm Ks.
May 21, 2008 @ 3:14 pm
No Tracy, don’t tell “cook you steak” that can become a habit, LOL. And yes you and your husband definately need time to your self, I”ve been wife, mommy and all the titles we moms wear for 46 years, and I have always encouraged my children that the kids will be fine, also it is good for the kids for you to be gone, as long as you trust whom ever you leave them with, they’ll be okay. But it is very important for you to have some alone time. My husband and I and the dog are whats left in this big house, one day he called from work and said to pack a bag he was taking me some where, I was shocked, we live alone! but he took us to a bed and breakfast, turned off the cell phones, and only told our son where we were going (in case of emergency). I so Loved it, all these years and he is still romantic, You go for it 5 days or 10 ,it will be harder for you than your little bundle. Sorry for the long post.
4. Rita
May 21, 2008 @ 3:15 pm
The longest I’ve been away from my kids is: 8 nights for my 13 y.o. (3 nights after giving birth to his first sister, 2 nights after giving birth to his second sister, and 2 nights after my first abdominal operation). 5 nights for my 9 y.o. (3 nights after giving birth to her little sister and 2 nights for the first abdominal surgery). And, 2 nights (abdominal surgery) for the little one. All of those times, they were home with my husband while I was in the hospital though. Kinda sad when you look back on it, isn’t it? Oh, wait, there have been slumber parties and whatnot with the older kids, so they’ve been away from here, but not us away from all the kids.
Each couple is different and what one needs, another might not. My husband and I do not need time overnight to ourselves to connect as a couple. That doesn’t make us better or worse than anyone else. It’s just us. I wouldn’t want to leave the kids behind. It’s just me. I wouldn’t enjoy myself.
I know that sounds really maryrish, and disgusting like “oooh, look at me, I can’t have fun with my babies not with me!” but it’s not. It’s just the way I am. When they’re little, I feel guilty, thinking they’re confused and needing me and that takes away any fun I’d have away from them. And, when they’re big, they’re good company and I enjoy having them with me.
5. Kadi
May 21, 2008 @ 7:11 pm
Yes, you are evil.
I’m kidding. I know the feeling of being homesick and excited for a break, all at the same time. I have been away from my kids 3 times in nine years. The longest was for three days and I almost died. Now, even when I think about leaving them, I get anxiety attacks. WTF? Motherhood is a bitch. She makes me crazy insane, makes me want to drive away and never return to my evil bastard children and then (when the opportunity finally arises,) I cannot bring myself to enjoy it.
I don’t get it and never will. Enjoy your break and take some anti anxiety pills with you…or get really drunk.
6. Tracy
May 21, 2008 @ 9:08 pm
[quote comment="164952"]Yes, you are evil.
I’m kidding. I know the feeling of being homesick and excited for a break, all at the same time. I have been away from my kids 3 times in nine years. The longest was for three days and I almost died. Now, even when I think about leaving them, I get anxiety attacks. WTF? Motherhood is a bitch. She makes me crazy insane, makes me want to drive away and never return to my evil bastard children and then (when the opportunity finally arises,) I cannot bring myself to enjoy it.
I don’t get it and never will. Enjoy your break and take some anti anxiety pills with you…or get really drunk.[/quote]
I already asked for Xanax for the plane ride alone since I’m scared of planes, heights, death, etc but my husband had to remind me the last time I took a Xanax it made me incredibly depressed and I couldn’t even muster up the enthusiasm to make banana bread so I am just going to have to deal.
7. Tracy
May 21, 2008 @ 9:10 pm
[quote comment="164922"]The longest I’ve been away from my kids is: 8 nights for my 13 y.o. (3 nights after giving birth to his first sister, 2 nights after giving birth to his second sister, and 2 nights after my first abdominal operation). 5 nights for my 9 y.o. (3 nights after giving birth to her little sister and 2 nights for the first abdominal surgery). And, 2 nights (abdominal surgery) for the little one. All of those times, they were home with my husband while I was in the hospital though. Kinda sad when you look back on it, isn’t it? Oh, wait, there have been slumber parties and whatnot with the older kids, so they’ve been away from here, but not us away from all the kids.
Each couple is different and what one needs, another might not. My husband and I do not need time overnight to ourselves to connect as a couple. That doesn’t make us better or worse than anyone else. It’s just us. I wouldn’t want to leave the kids behind. It’s just me. I wouldn’t enjoy myself.
I know that sounds really maryrish, and disgusting like “oooh, look at me, I can’t have fun with my babies not with me!” but it’s not. It’s just the way I am. When they’re little, I feel guilty, thinking they’re confused and needing me and that takes away any fun I’d have away from them. And, when they’re big, they’re good company and I enjoy having them with me.[/quote]
You sound like the husband. I was all “it’s going to be so fun to just have it be you and me!” and he reminded me we in fact both work from home, thus see each other every day and we don’t really need to connect. But really I won’t mind a little adventure.
8. Kennedy
May 21, 2008 @ 10:58 pm
She’ll probably LOVE the time with Grandma anyway, won’t she?
And I know you’ll LOVE sleeping in, right?
Of course you’ll still be nervous thinking of being far from her. I think all moms have that problem. I guess it’s not really a problem though. That’s just the way we’re wired.