Play time
Posted
April 30, 2008 at
7:38 pm by
Tracy
There’s a lot of fun stuff I want to do with my daughter. I’ve got an incredible [if I dare say so] book collection growing for her, and I want to do tons of crafts…in fact I go to Michaels about once a week and buy ribbon and Mod Podge and buttons for projects. Am I lame? Perhaps. And perhaps my daughter will want to play soccer and hate books and ribbon and weird buttons and I will be bummed but I guess I’ll be mommy goalie, or defense, anything her little heart desires.
But right now? Right now her interests include: putting things in her mouth, falling and hitting her head on things, crawling at record speeds around our home, getting stuck under coffee tables, putting the cat in headlocks, dog bones, and giving me heart attacks. She can get into a good Touch and Feel book for 30 seconds at a time, and sometimes if I do funny voices and act-a-fool she’ll giggle. We went to the zoo and spent a good deal of time in front of the fish tanks We also enjoy shopping. Paige is perfectly content making goo goo eyes with strangers in the mall if it means I’m pushing her around all day and providing her with apple strawberry Gerber Stars and carrot juice.
But I got to let it out folks.
I don’t like playing with my daughter. Touch and Feel’s are cute but I can’t read “Zoo’s Who” over and over again without thinking about my email. I can only feign enthusiasm for the fish in the tank a few times before I realize I’d rather be reading the new novel I have sitting on my desk. I like to go to the park and feed the ducks but I don’t like watching my daughter like a hawk so she doesn’t put branches and bugs into her mouth. I feel horrible about this, really and truly. I want to be super mom and get psyched about everything. I want to crawl around the floor all day enthralled to be picking up dust bunnies before my daughter can get to them. In fact, I want to be the kind of mom that gets rid if dust bunnies before they even happen even with a dog, cat, and shag rug.
But I can’t.
And for the record, I’m really glad she’s sleeping, where’s my book?
Tags: child-rearing, Humor, nine-month-old, playing-with-infant |
59 Responses to “Play time”
RSS feed for comments on this post.
Leave a comment
Comments are moderated and may not appear immediately in an effort to remove commercial messages, irrelevancies, excessive foul language, racist/sexist/hateful comments, spoofed/cloaked IPs and/or personal attacks and will be edited/deleted at our discretion. Thank you for your patience.
1. Friend said:
April 30, 2008 @ 7:43 pm
Is this your first, and how old, if you don’t mind me asking?
2. Tracy said:
April 30, 2008 @ 7:51 pm
She sure is, and she’s the light of my life even if I complain but hey, this IS Imperfectparent, right? And she’s going to be nine months in about a week and some change.
3. Friend said:
April 30, 2008 @ 7:57 pm
Well, of course she is the light of your life, and I got a kick out of your article. Mine turns 18 tomorrow…but I get the gist of your article. Sure, it gets tedious at times….but you will wake up, tomorrow, and she will be 18….so enjoy as much as you can!!!! I am sure you are a great mommy!!!
4. Rita. said:
April 30, 2008 @ 8:21 pm
Ah, Tracy, that’s the age! Moms aren’t supposed to be Mommy-The-Entertainer twenty-four hours a day. Really! Don’t be so hard on yourself.
You’re doing what you’re supposed to, you’re keeping her engaged, bonding with her, taking care of her needs. But, as long as she’s happy being with you, then you don’t have to be knocking yourself out to play with her all the time. A LOT of my mommy-bonding is done while we run errands and do housework and stuff. Sure, there’s playtime, too, but it’s a balance.
It is a hard age, that infancy, too. It’s kind of like having a cat that you think you should always be engaging. Cats go off on their own when they’re done, but the baby is always THERE. You play and play and then you’re like, “OK, now what?” It’s OK to stop playing then, lol, really.
And, the time will come when you’re able to find more common interests. I play Polly (fucking) Pocket with my 3 y.o. because she loves it so (fucking) much, but then we will read a stack of books and I enjoy that myself. It’s still push and pull with her.
The older two are at a point where they are genuinely enjoyable though. We can play REAL games like Yahtzee and Monopoly and Battleship. (Not Don’t Break the (fucking) Ice).
The 13 y.o. and I watched Evil Dead II together the other day. Now that’s mother-son bonding at its finest. I’m proud to say he has a genuine appreciation for old Sam Raimi . It’s moments like that when you know that all the hours doing the dirty work pay off in the end and you have a respectable teen you can parade in public.
Really, let go of the guilt, it’s not worth it.
5. Maureen said:
April 30, 2008 @ 8:37 pm
You and I are in the same boat. Even though I work full-time, there’s only so much playing with the Leapfrog Table that makes really weird sounds that I can take. I’ll come home from work and after ten minutes, I’m all, “Ryan! Ryan! Look! Look! Entourage is on!”
He never goes for it.
6. Friend said:
April 30, 2008 @ 9:06 pm
Love your comment Rita….but I got it without the F bomb so many times. Hey, I’m no Molly Morman, but that word is a bit icky…
7. Friend said:
April 30, 2008 @ 9:06 pm
Love your comment Rita….but I got it without the F bomb so many times. Hey, I’m no Molly Morman, but that word is a bit icky…
8. Friend said:
April 30, 2008 @ 9:08 pm
Sorry for the double-double…it wasn’t meant to be posted twice for emphasis, I swear.
9. Rita. said:
April 30, 2008 @ 9:34 pm
Sorry, didn’t mean to be such a cunt. LOL. Really, it’s language. It’s my medium. I won’t censor my palate. If it offends you, look away.
10. IP staff said:
April 30, 2008 @ 9:43 pm
[quote comment="158952"]Love your comment Rita….but I got it without the F bomb so many times. Hey, I’m no Molly Morman, but that word is a bit icky… :)[/quote]
If the occasional “fuck” offends you, then you are most absolutely at the wrong site. It’s part of why we exist — because some adults choose to express themselves with “profanity”, and we allow them to do so as a counter to sites that don’t like the corporate websites Parents.com, Babycenter, etc.
Make sure you don’t read the essay featured tomorrow on the home page, you just might faint dead away.
11. Allison G. said:
April 30, 2008 @ 9:55 pm
I like to tell people that my mother invented “Fuck”.
She sure used it more than anyone else I’ve ever known.
12. Friend said:
April 30, 2008 @ 9:58 pm
[quote comment="158978"][quote comment="158952"]Love your comment Rita….but I got it without the F bomb so many times. Hey, I’m no Molly Morman, but that word is a bit icky… :)[/quote]
If the occasional “fuck” offends you, then you are most absolutely at the wrong site. It’s part of why we exist — because some adults choose to express themselves with “profanity”, and we allow them to do so as a counter to sites that don’t like the corporate websites Parents.com, Babycenter, etc.
Make sure you don’t read the essay featured tomorrow on the home page, you just might faint dead away.[/quote]
Well fuck no it doesn’t bother me one fucking bit….but CUNT, now that one is as classy as me wiping my ass with my fingers and wiping it on someone….
13. Friend said:
April 30, 2008 @ 10:01 pm
So it is ok to use some foul language….this is good to know.
14. Prescott said:
April 30, 2008 @ 11:02 pm
[quote comment="159002"]So it is ok to use some foul language….this is good to know. :)[/quote]
So, before curse words were “icky”, but now since you realized nobody cared/appreciated you being the “language police”, swearing is all fine and good for you.
Can we redub you “Fairweather Friend”?
15. Prescott said:
April 30, 2008 @ 11:04 pm
Oops, just realized I was logged in as “myself” — just to clarify, I am the editor of this site and also “IP Staff”.
16. Grandma frm Ks. said:
May 1, 2008 @ 12:32 am
Well, Well Little miss Suzanne AKA friend, what a nasty mouth you have, now if any one wants to know why I say this go to some other blogs she has been on, calling her self such a righteous christian! Oh my Lord,of course thats not all she did, I won’t say any more, we”ll just see how long she is on here before she starts a dang war, all I can say is you better watch your backs,B/C icky is the least of her problems, so when it starts remember I said so.
17. SB said:
May 1, 2008 @ 9:30 am
Grandma frm Ks, you are a major pot stirrer. You do not know how to move on. On every board you keep this up and even pull new people into this battle. Friend never called herself a righteous christian. I feel sorry for her with the how you and your mean girls club keep going on and on about her. How to you expect her to act when you guys keep egging her on. And you didn’t fool me over this weekend either. Only one posting was you.
18. Friend said:
May 1, 2008 @ 1:10 pm
[quote comment="159034"][quote comment="159002"]So it is ok to use some foul language….this is good to know. :)[/quote]
So, before curse words were “icky”, but now since you realized nobody cared/appreciated you being the “language police”, swearing is all fine and good for you.
Can we redub you “Fairweather Friend”?[/quote]
I think fuck and cunt are truly gross….but hey if they are allowed….you never know when you may need to use them….
19. Jennifer said:
May 1, 2008 @ 1:13 pm
[quote comment="159160"][quote comment="159034"][quote comment="159002"]So it is ok to use some foul language….this is good to know. :)[/quote]
So, before curse words were “icky”, but now since you realized nobody cared/appreciated you being the “language police”, swearing is all fine and good for you.
Can we redub you “Fairweather Friend”?[/quote]
I think fuck and cunt are truly gross….but hey if they are allowed….you never know when you may need to use them….[/quote]
Maybe its best that we dont though. We are all adults here. We can carry on a perfectly good conversation without having to include profanity. IMO using profanity when not in road rage is just ghetto lol.
20. Friend said:
May 1, 2008 @ 1:14 pm
[quote comment="159046"]Well, Well Little miss Suzanne AKA friend, what a nasty mouth you have, now if any one wants to know why I say this go to some other blogs she has been on, calling her self such a righteous christian! Oh my Lord,of course thats not all she did, I won’t say any more, we”ll just see how long she is on here before she starts a dang war, all I can say is you better watch your backs,B/C icky is the least of her problems, so when it starts remember I said so.[/quote]
I don’t think you are a comprehensive reader Grandma…is it lack of O2 to the brain….no, I don’t like those words…and I find it very unusual that the author of the article would use them…because I know that people on this forum would be offended….
21. Friend said:
May 1, 2008 @ 1:16 pm
[quote comment="159084"]Grandma frm Ks, you are a major pot stirrer. You do not know how to move on. On every board you keep this up and even pull new people into this battle. Friend never called herself a righteous christian. I feel sorry for her with the how you and your mean girls club keep going on and on about her. How to you expect her to act when you guys keep egging her on. And you didn’t fool me over this weekend either. Only one posting was you.[/quote]
Again, I thank you….yea…I wondered about that too…I have heard her go off like that…I don’t buy the story either…who cares….ya know?
22. Friend said:
May 1, 2008 @ 1:18 pm
[quote comment="159161"][quote comment="159160"][quote comment="159034"][quote comment="159002"]So it is ok to use some foul language….this is good to know. :)[/quote]
So, before curse words were “icky”, but now since you realized nobody cared/appreciated you being the “language police”, swearing is all fine and good for you.
Can we redub you “Fairweather Friend”?[/quote]
I think fuck and cunt are truly gross….but hey if they are allowed….you never know when you may need to use them….[/quote]
Maybe its best that we dont though. We are all adults here. We can carry on a perfectly good conversation without having to include profanity. IMO using profanity when not in road rage is just ghetto lol.[/quote]
Did you read my first comment and then the response I got….weird I think….but if IP allows it…..”I’m not going to post here anymore”
23. Jennifer said:
May 1, 2008 @ 1:24 pm
[quote comment="159166"][quote comment="159161"][quote comment="159160"][quote comment="159034"][quote comment="159002"]So it is ok to use some foul language….this is good to know. :)[/quote]
So, before curse words were “icky”, but now since you realized nobody cared/appreciated you being the “language police”, swearing is all fine and good for you.
Can we redub you “Fairweather Friend”?[/quote]
I think fuck and cunt are truly gross….but hey if they are allowed….you never know when you may need to use them….[/quote]
Maybe its best that we dont though. We are all adults here. We can carry on a perfectly good conversation without having to include profanity. IMO using profanity when not in road rage is just ghetto lol.[/quote]
Did you read my first comment and then the response I got….weird I think….but if IP allows it…..”I’m not going to post here anymore”[/quote]
I dont blame you!!
24. Tracy said:
May 1, 2008 @ 1:30 pm
25. Rita. said:
May 1, 2008 @ 1:39 pm
I know.
26. Friend said:
May 1, 2008 @ 1:42 pm
I know what….perhaps not your audience….you took the class out of your article…
27. Rita. said:
May 1, 2008 @ 1:45 pm
And, I should not be fueling this. I know I shouldn’t and I’m sorry, Tracy for contributing to the trash following your entry. But…
Ghetto? [using profanity when not in road rage is just ghetto lol]. Jennifer, really? Ghetto? Now, using the word “Ghetto” as a derogatory term is way worse than anything I’ve read on this thread or elsewhere. I just really, really needed to stop and address that. Sorry, I couldn’t let it go.
28. Jennifer said:
May 1, 2008 @ 1:48 pm
[quote comment="159183"]And, I should not be fueling this. I know I shouldn’t and I’m sorry, Tracy for contributing to the trash following your entry. But…
Ghetto? [using profanity when not in road rage is just ghetto lol]. Jennifer, really? Ghetto? Now, using the word “Ghetto” as a derogatory term is way worse than anything I’ve read on this thread or elsewhere. I just really, really needed to stop and address that. Sorry, I couldn’t let it go.[/quote]
How’s it derogatory? Ghetto can be used as a figure of speech. I guess you don’t know that!
29. Grandma frm Ks. said:
May 1, 2008 @ 1:48 pm
Yeah friend said the bad words, now is she saying she is not gonna post here any more? No ofcourse not, cause IP Staff made her look stupid, but she went to another site where they have never used those words and actually used them on there, And S.B. was so quick to attack me, Well we will see, BTW S.B. I left other sites to get away from her, so plz know what you are talking about before you start attacking, friend as you call her started on me as soon as I came on board, went as far as saying I was a cloak, heck I did’t even know what that meant,And at the time she was the one deceiving ppl, so I just left there, and it did no good,I have no problem with you nor do I want any, you do not knoe me nor I you, but before you get all uffy with other ppl over heryou should know the whole story,Why would you think it’s everyone else who is mean? how could all thise girls be wrong and friend be the ony innocent one? do some re search.
30. Friend said:
May 1, 2008 @ 1:50 pm
Tracy,
I think everyone has lost sight of your darling prose regarding your little darling. Too bad it got trashed up…