Comments on: The Perfect Parent http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2008/02/19/the-perfect-parent/ Parenting, Politics and News for the Perfectly Challenged Fri, 29 Aug 2008 17:52:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Amanda http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2008/02/19/the-perfect-parent/#comment-144953 Amanda Thu, 21 Feb 2008 02:15:55 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2008/02/19/the-perfect-parent/#comment-144953 LOL, Rita! This is right on -- wish you were here physically to mentor me, but the InterWeb will have to do. :-) One of my neighbors (who is all about the educational toys and time and schools) accused me of secretly teaching Caroline her numbers last year because she knew them. Well, yeah, kids learn things. I don't have to sit down with a workbook and drill her every day! LOL, Rita! This is right on — wish you were here physically to mentor me, but the InterWeb will have to do. :-) One of my neighbors (who is all about the educational toys and time and schools) accused me of secretly teaching Caroline her numbers last year because she knew them. Well, yeah, kids learn things. I don’t have to sit down with a workbook and drill her every day!

]]> By: Rita http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2008/02/19/the-perfect-parent/#comment-144943 Rita Thu, 21 Feb 2008 01:43:53 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2008/02/19/the-perfect-parent/#comment-144943 [quote] I swear, we're raising a generation of people who are not gonna know how to cope.[/quote] Yeah, I don't know what's going to happen to these kids when they're older. [quote] I swear, we’re raising a generation of people who are not gonna know how to cope.[/quote]

Yeah, I don’t know what’s going to happen to these kids when they’re older.

]]> By: Allison http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2008/02/19/the-perfect-parent/#comment-144908 Allison Wed, 20 Feb 2008 21:11:10 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2008/02/19/the-perfect-parent/#comment-144908 Awesome post, Rita! I feel completely the same way. I hate when parents see that their kid doesn't want to do something they're told to, and they respond with, "Well what do YOU want to do, sweetie?" Life doesn't work that way. There's shit to do, and you have to do it. Work first, then play! And ditto on the "carefully rehearsed child-psych approved vocabulary in a gentle sing-songy voice". I hate that crap. I read this article about "10 Thigs You Should Never Say To Your Kid", because your words may sound one way, but the child hears something different. Gimme a break. Just be straight up with your kids. We are seriously doing our kids' generation a disservice when we remove any possibilities of disappointment and unfairness. Life is full of it, it's how we teach them to deal with these let-downs that matters most. From one Perfect Parent to another, thank you for this great post!!!!!!!! Awesome post, Rita! I feel completely the same way.
I hate when parents see that their kid doesn’t want to do something they’re told to, and they respond with, “Well what do YOU want to do, sweetie?” Life doesn’t work that way. There’s shit to do, and you have to do it. Work first, then play!
And ditto on the “carefully rehearsed child-psych approved vocabulary in a gentle sing-songy voice”. I hate that crap. I read this article about “10 Thigs You Should Never Say To Your Kid”, because your words may sound one way, but the child hears something different. Gimme a break. Just be straight up with your kids.
We are seriously doing our kids’ generation a disservice when we remove any possibilities of disappointment and unfairness. Life is full of it, it’s how we teach them to deal with these let-downs that matters most.
From one Perfect Parent to another, thank you for this great post!!!!!!!!

]]> By: Jon http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2008/02/19/the-perfect-parent/#comment-144803 Jon Wed, 20 Feb 2008 09:41:39 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2008/02/19/the-perfect-parent/#comment-144803 If I could find a way to demonstrate a standing ovation for that post via smilies then I would, as I can't this will have to do... Well done Rita, first class post and I hope a serious reality check to all struggling parents out there. Jon... If I could find a way to demonstrate a standing ovation for that post via smilies then I would, as I can’t this will have to do…

Well done Rita, first class post and I hope a serious reality check to all struggling parents out there.

Jon…

]]> By: Jessica http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2008/02/19/the-perfect-parent/#comment-144730 Jessica Wed, 20 Feb 2008 01:40:05 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2008/02/19/the-perfect-parent/#comment-144730 <em>I drive, I schedule, I pay.</em> Well, that pretty much sums it up for us realists. Great post Rita!! I feel like putting this to music, to the tune of the "Battle of the Green Berets" or something. I'm with you. I don't hyper-focus on who my children can be nor do I lead a child-centered life. It's a family life and all of us have jobs and responsibilities and sometimes life just isn't fair. Around my area, the thing that drives me insane is parents who pick out all their children's teachers according to which teacher will mesh with the child's "learning style" and personality. Prescott and I believe that kids need to learn how to take direction from people they don't necessarily mesh with and who could very well be a personality conflict because that's life. What are all these kids gonna do when life hits them square between the eyes? They'll have adult temper tantrums and not the kind that you have, but ones much more dangerous and unhealthy. I swear, we're raising a generation of people who are not gonna know how to cope. I drive, I schedule, I pay.

Well, that pretty much sums it up for us realists.

Great post Rita!! I feel like putting this to music, to the tune of the “Battle of the Green Berets” or something.

I’m with you. I don’t hyper-focus on who my children can be nor do I lead a child-centered life. It’s a family life and all of us have jobs and responsibilities and sometimes life just isn’t fair.

Around my area, the thing that drives me insane is parents who pick out all their children’s teachers according to which teacher will mesh with the child’s “learning style” and personality.

Prescott and I believe that kids need to learn how to take direction from people they don’t necessarily mesh with and who could very well be a personality conflict because that’s life.

What are all these kids gonna do when life hits them square between the eyes? They’ll have adult temper tantrums and not the kind that you have, but ones much more dangerous and unhealthy. I swear, we’re raising a generation of people who are not gonna know how to cope.

]]> By: Sherra http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2008/02/19/the-perfect-parent/#comment-144707 Sherra Tue, 19 Feb 2008 23:48:00 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2008/02/19/the-perfect-parent/#comment-144707 AMEN - we could hang out!! Loved, loved, loved your post. It's a really good day when you have a 16 year old plan the week's dinners, write a grocery list and then she takes her 8 year old sister with her to the grocery store and they actually do the grocery shopping using a calculator they brought with them to stay within budget. My full-time job as a mom raising my 4 kids is to work myself out of a job! I could go on and on about this but I'll stop for now. I wonder what's for dinner? :) AMEN - we could hang out!! Loved, loved, loved your post. It’s a really good day when you have a 16 year old plan the week’s dinners, write a grocery list and then she takes her 8 year old sister with her to the grocery store and they actually do the grocery shopping using a calculator they brought with them to stay within budget. My full-time job as a mom raising my 4 kids is to work myself out of a job! I could go on and on about this but I’ll stop for now. I wonder what’s for dinner? :)

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