Comments on: Yet another tragic ending

By: Stacey S_MOD

Stacey S_MOD — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 15:11:33 +0000

That has got to be such a horrific way to die especially at the hands of your own mother! I can’t even begin to imagine the fear & horror that poor little girl experienced in her last moments of life! If she was so hell bent on killing her child & couldn’t even fathom another way out, why couldn’t she think of a more peaceful way to do it! I don’t give a shit about what the circumstances were, that is absolutely inexcusable & unforgivable!

By: Maggie's BF

Maggie's BF — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 08:24:09 +0000

I think that all of you really need to stop talking about things that you do not know about. First of all, those that say that they knew Maggie, Sydney or Alan, besides family, DID NOT KNOW THEM.
I am/was Maggies boyfriend for the three and a half years before this tragedy. The fact that I am not mentioned in anyones post of the “facts” cause they “knew” Maggie and Sydney is absolute bull. I spent the last three and a half years of my life (now four and a half since this happened) with those two and those were the best days of my life. If you worked at Panera and really have anything to say, why not mention me as being a cruel person,too? I was there almost everyday that they were. I was there when Sydney went to her fathers house and had to ask someone in the neighborhood how to get back to his place because her “father” had sent her to the local park with his, at the time, girlfirends daughter, who was only 3 years older, by themselves. Sydney’s “father” was an absenty father for most of her life. I know cause I was there for Sydney. Any of you that continue to lie about them really need to stop what you are saying. I know what was going on, I know that Sydney’s “father” was not what he wants people to believe he would be. I was there. I supported Maggie and Sydney. They stayed with me when they weren’t at Maggie’s parents’ house. Anyone saying that they know them, saying that they know what went on with them on a day to day basis and don’t mention me in thier life, obviously didn’t know them. STOP LYING!!!! STFU!!!! I have enough grief in my life without you morons trying to get your two seconds of fame from saying you know them. As for Alan, I am truely sorry that you lost a child, but honestly you don’t know my pain because I raised Sydney from 3 to 7, not you. Stop trying to be the martyr. You were and absenty father and you always will be. Anyone who posts after this, if you don’t know MY name, you don’t know Maggie or Sydney, so STOP POSTING!!!!

PS - Thank you pixie for being at least a little bit sensible in this whole tragic matter.

By: Rita

Rita — Sat, 14 Jun 2008 18:08:53 +0000

I also need to add, having stumbled on here that pixie is NOT me (I’m “petulant pixie” in the community).

By: Marina

Marina — Sat, 14 Jun 2008 12:06:34 +0000

only comment to make here was maggie met alan at the stripclub so what does that say about a man that would impregnate a stripper. sorry shannon berry your not the only one who knew them and alan did not do crap for MOST of sydney’s life.

By: Sarabei

Sarabei — Sat, 15 Sep 2007 09:59:46 +0000

[quote comment="109097"]Yes, Magdalene made the choice to go through a pregnancy and give birth to HER child. She did not make the choice or decision to give up that child or to share JOINT custody of that child. Bringing Magdalene into court seeking JOINT custody (not merely visitation privileges) was a choice and conscious decision on the part of the EX boyfriend (not the school officials or anyone else). The EX was never even her husband. This obviously caused Magdalene great distress and panic with the dreaded thought of having her child taken away from her–just look at the consequences. Magdalene (Maggie) was a young, vibrant, intuitive and very special person in her own right (still only in her 20’s) who was successfully working toward making a better life for herself and her daughter. She deserved “The Gift of the Magi” (O. Henry), not “dreck.”[/quote]

First let me state to anyone else posting here, after this post, we should just ignore pixie, she is abviously a trollish attention whore and by responding we are just feeding her narcissitic needs. She obviously is not all there herself and must be a bitter sad person who has no clue as to the laws, etc. A FATHER of a child has AS MUCH RIGHTS AS THE WOMAN WHO GAVE BIRTH TO SAID CHILD. Without Alan there would NOT have been a Sydney. He had as many rights as that cold blooded murderess.

By: pixie

pixie — Sat, 15 Sep 2007 02:32:38 +0000

Yes, Magdalene made the choice to go through a pregnancy and give birth to HER child. She did not make the choice or decision to give up that child or to share JOINT custody of that child. Bringing Magdalene into court seeking JOINT custody (not merely visitation privileges) was a choice and conscious decision on the part of the EX boyfriend (not the school officials or anyone else). The EX was never even her husband. This obviously caused Magdalene great distress and panic with the dreaded thought of having her child taken away from her–just look at the consequences. Magdalene (Maggie) was a young, vibrant, intuitive and very special person in her own right (still only in her 20’s) who was successfully working toward making a better life for herself and her daughter. She deserved “The Gift of the Magi” (O. Henry), not “dreck.”

By: Sarabei

Sarabei — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 23:26:03 +0000

[quote comment="109043"]Controlling, manipulating people should have backed off and gone about attending to THEIR business rather than insinuating themselves in and riding slip-shod over MAGDALENE’S life and personal affairs (and that of her daughter’s). Magdalene never married the father of her child (no contract), nor did she ever contract to be a surrogate mother/womb to carry the child (for her ex or anyone else to remove at will). Magdalene wanted to retain her personal freedom and full custodial rights of her child (which she risked her life and health giving birth to and years thereafter), and wanted the ex to leave her in peace so that she could continue being a mother to her daughter without all the constant interference. Magdalene feared the loss of privacy and autonomy and was resisting being forced to relinquish everything that she treasured and worked so hard for (her child). All to be taken away by someone who had that bigger house, bigger yard, bigger family, bigger bankroll (big woop). The petition/motion of trying to obtain JOINT custody was just evil and cruel (imo) and backfired. Two wrongs don’t make a right.[/quote]

You act like the biological father had NO rights.
As much as it must hurt your bitter man hating self, Alan had EVERY right to want visitation with his daughter. So what if he was getting ahead and getting a house? Jealous Much Pixie? Please run don’t walk to your nearest hospital and sign yourself into the mental ward and get the help you SO richly deserve.

By: Mrs. G

Mrs. G — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 21:52:46 +0000

To those of you reading this blog please excuse all my typing errors in the last posting. I am just so angry that someone who knows absolutly nothng about the situation, nothng about Maggie, Sydney or Alan would keep osting such mean and hateful thngs. This woman obviously needs some mental help herself. This child is my stepgranddaughter and I love her very much. I would never have considered her to be a step only just my granddaughter, And I don’t really care what Pixie or anyone else thinks for that matter this beautiful little girl is no longer with us because of a tragic turn of events and her father can not be blamed. There are some people I hope are loosing sleep at night about this, starting with school officials who didn’t do thier job and attorneys and courts that drug out the procedings so long that perhaps they did make Maggie inscure. That we will never know. It is too bad a judge can not make a decision, tell a father he can see his child and reassure a mother that she is not loosing that child in just one or two visits instead of draggin it on for almost a year. Perhaps the justcie systejm needs a revamp. I just hope everyone understands that we all miss Syndey and we enjoyed her visits everytime she was here. And just so you know Pixie, Sydney lover her father a lot. She cried every time she had to leave him and wanted to stay, but he always did the right thing and took her back to her mother. So why don’t you go find someone else to slander and pick on. Or better yet get away from your computer, get some help for yourself and get a life.

By: Mrs. G

Mrs. G — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 21:42:43 +0000

Wake up and smell the coffee lady. No one tried to control Maggie. She made the choice to have a baby. She also allowed the babuies father to be a part of that childn’t life for six years and then all of a sudden one day she decided to take that away, Sound like she was the one playing games here. And how do you know what she felt or didn’t feel? Do you know her? Did you ever speak with her? No you are spouting off about things of which you know nothing about. And what bigger and better house and all. Sydney’s father also lived with his father until just last year. And beleive it or not Pixie his only obligation, which he totally full filled was to his daughter. You can not spout off you constant babble about a person you don’t know. You dod not know Syndey, her father or her mother for that matter. Hopefully this will be the last time someon has to tell you to shut yoyur moth about things of which you know nothintg, Bad mouthing Sydney’s father will not bring her or her mother back. Standing there and making false accusations agains a man who loves his daughter very much and of whom you no nothing about just shows how ignorant you really are. I have come to the conclusion that you are not defending Maggies at all. The only defense for her is sadly to say she needed mental help she didn’t get because that wouldb e the only reason I can think a woman would murder her child. And before yopu shoot your big mouth off again Sydney’s fahter did not push her to the limit. And in the USA lady all father have rights to see their children married or not. I guess you must have on miseralbe life that you have jumped on this band wagon of youras to try and make a grieving father and the rest of his family suffer even more. Why don’t you give it a rest and let poor Sydney rest in peace and her mother as well if that is at all possible for you.

By: pixiedustre

pixiedustre — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 19:46:45 +0000

Controlling, manipulating people should have backed off and gone about attending to THEIR business rather than insinuating themselves in and riding slip-shod over MAGDALENE’S life and personal affairs (and that of her daughter’s). Magdalene never married the father of her child (no contract), nor did she ever contract to be a surrogate mother/womb to carry the child (for her ex or anyone else to remove at will). Magdalene wanted to retain her personal freedom and full custodial rights of her child (which she risked her life and health giving birth to and years thereafter), and wanted the ex to leave her in peace so that she could continue being a mother to her daughter without all the constant interference. Magdalene feared the loss of privacy and autonomy and was resisting being forced to relinquish everything that she treasured and worked so hard for (her child). All to be taken away by someone who had that bigger house, bigger yard, bigger family, bigger bankroll (big woop). The petition/motion of trying to obtain JOINT custody was just evil and cruel (imo) and backfired. Two wrongs don’t make a right.

By: Mrs. G

Mrs. G — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 12:53:33 +0000

You know Pixie; you must need and want attention very badly. You say Maggie lived off very little. Wrong! She was given well above the amount of child support that a court would have ordered. If she was in such bad shape why was she driving a new car, and where did she get the money for the laptop computer that seemed to mean more to here than her daughter. Clearly you will defend this woman no matter what she did. And again you are bashing a father for trying to see his daughter. In this country most parents whether they have been married or not share custody. A bad father would have walked away when Maggie didn’t even bother to tell him she was pregnant to begin with. He would have said oh well she doesn’t want me involved so I won’t be. This father went to her and offered help and support. Maggie DID NOT WANT TO MARRY HIM. What part of that are you too blind to see. When he got the call in the middle of the nigh that Maggie was in labor he went right to her home and was there for the birth of his daughter. Now that doesn’t sound like a man who didn’t care. And in all you spouting off you keep forgetting that he did support Sydney and he did see her for the first six years of her life on a regular basis. Then Maggie took it on herself to decide he could not longer visit his daughter, so who is to blame here. Had she just kept with their arrangement and let him have time with his daughter there would have never been court preceding to begin with. And since those of us involved with the people you are slamming and with Maggie it is not up to us to provide someone like you with information, you wouldn’t believe it anyway. The person who needs to stop posting stupid comments is you. I don’t care how fare someone thinks they are pushed murder is never the answer. And remember once again, the father acted and was told by his attorney to ask for joint custody. . This would keep Maggie from taking Sydney out of the country, which was the only real fear most of us had. And 2 if you ask for visitation they attorney told him you also ask for joint custody. Any loving father would want that. Once again he was not asking for physical custody and only wanted the right, which was his in any court in the land, to see his child and watch her grown up. And who do you think got hurt the most in all this. I’ll tell you Sydney. She wasn’t allowed to see a father that she loved very much for the last year of her precious life and she was denied the right to grow up and contribute so much to the world because she was such a bright child I know she would have done wonderful things, And why, because her mother decided she should not live any monger. No Pixie, you get your facts straight before you spout off anymore of you babble. And take a look at that school. Perhaps had they actually done their job Sydney would not have been in a position to be murdered. I dare say there are some people who should be loosing sleep over the fact they didn’t do what the state mandates. And since you did not know Maggie personally nor do you know Sydney’s father personally how can you sit there and judge either one of them in any light. And for your information I am not bashing Maggie, I am sorry to say I think she was sick and was in desperate need of some mental health care, but that is all I am willing to give. No one pushed her to this except her on paranoid feelings. You can spout all you want but there is just no defending what she did and none of us who know Sydney’s father nor anyone else who know ALL the facts, which you obviously don’t, of this case would ever blame him for what happened. And for your information he is grieving for his daughter and is also grieving for the death of her mother. It is not what he would have ever wanted for either of them. So unless you can come up with some hard fact to support you babblings I would suggest you cease them, You won’t gain any support for anyone who knew all the parties involved or from anyone with any common sense.

By: Sarabei

Sarabei — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 12:24:43 +0000

[quote comment="108917"]Let it be very clear that I never, ever said that killing a child was the answer. Shame on YOU. However, it’s so obvious that Magdalene was treated shabbily and being hounded by the ex. I can see why Magdalene’s mother had her doubts about the ex. There is a commandment which states: Thou shalt not steal. Magdalene had a lot stolen from her over the years and was fighting for her life and HER family (herself and daughter), and her right to remain full custodial parent of her daughter in family court. Her ex-boyfriend was never even her husband and got a lot for the little bit of money and crumbs he gave her over the years. It’s clearly evident by reading the posts on this message board that Magdalene was a victim not only of SOUL MURDER but CHARACTER ASSASSINATION as well, and was being viciously smeared for quite a while. Thankfully, the leadership of the school district 47 (where Magdalene was working) showed themselves to be representative of the best qualities one would wish for: understanding, kindness, willingness to give a chance to someone who may have made a mistake in the past (instead of condemning them), working to uplift rather than undermine. Likewise to those at Panera Bakery (aside from the one ex-employee). If the ex-boyfriend had not pushed Magdalene relentlessly and caused her so much distress, she and her daughter would still be here, imo. It’s very sad.[/quote]

And you knew this murderess how? Because if you didn’t know her and I have my doubts that you did, you my dear are an idiot and the perfect example of why some people should not be allowed to breed. NO evidence that has been made public supports your theory of poor widdle Magdalene….treated so bad by EVERYONE that THEY caused her to cold bloodedly murder her child for NO reason. Period. Provide some links, names, and evidence of what you purport. If you can’t then quit posting stupid comments.

By: pixiedustre

pixiedustre — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 03:59:53 +0000

Let it be very clear that I never, ever said that killing a child was the answer. Shame on YOU. However, it’s so obvious that Magdalene was treated shabbily and being hounded by the ex. I can see why Magdalene’s mother had her doubts about the ex. There is a commandment which states: Thou shalt not steal. Magdalene had a lot stolen from her over the years and was fighting for her life and HER family (herself and daughter), and her right to remain full custodial parent of her daughter in family court. Her ex-boyfriend was never even her husband and got a lot for the little bit of money and crumbs he gave her over the years. It’s clearly evident by reading the posts on this message board that Magdalene was a victim not only of SOUL MURDER but CHARACTER ASSASSINATION as well, and was being viciously smeared for quite a while. Thankfully, the leadership of the school district 47 (where Magdalene was working) showed themselves to be representative of the best qualities one would wish for: understanding, kindness, willingness to give a chance to someone who may have made a mistake in the past (instead of condemning them), working to uplift rather than undermine. Likewise to those at Panera Bakery (aside from the one ex-employee). If the ex-boyfriend had not pushed Magdalene relentlessly and caused her so much distress, she and her daughter would still be here, imo. It’s very sad.

By: kimtisha

kimtisha — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 05:01:12 +0000

[quote comment="106737"]Sounds to me like another selfish power grab on the part of the ex to eventually get custody. [/quote]

Sounds to me like “Pixie” is a bitter, close-minded, man-hater who is spouting off about things she knows nothing of. Even faced with the facts from people who know Maggie and Sydney, Pixie turns it around and blames everyone but the woman who killed her daughter in cold blood! Anyone who could defend Maggie’s actions is obviously as psycho as Maggie and I just pray this lunatic doesn’t have children.

By: Delusional

Delusional — Mon, 10 Sep 2007 18:40:46 +0000

Wow Pixie, You must be as crazy as Maggie was. And shame on you for thinking ANY woman needs a man to buy her a house and take care of her. There are MILLIONS of women out there that work more than one job every single day to provide for multiple children. Maggie could have gotten off her ass and done the same thing. The fact that you think a woman needs a man’s support to raise a child is insulting to every single mother out there. Have you ever to been to Panera Bread? It isn’t cheap. There are cheaper places to go for free handouts. If this woman was so incredibly strapped and desperate for financial support maybe she should have gotten a job at that Panera after her school hours.

And I do not care how desperate anything makes you. Killing your own child is not the answer.

I sure hope you do not have children. Someday you may decide you can’t hack it on your own and kill them and then yourself.

By: Sarabei

Sarabei — Mon, 10 Sep 2007 18:30:29 +0000

Please GOD don’t ever reproduce…we have enough embicilic morons spouting nonsense that are taking up valuable air and space already. I have NEVER heard such tripe in my life as you are spouting….I don’t even have the words for how idiotic you are….

By: Mrs. G

Mrs. G — Sat, 08 Sep 2007 17:17:54 +0000

I know Alan and I had occasion to spend time with Maggie when she came to my home looking for Alan. Alan loved his daughter and would have laid down his own life for her. He was not threatening to take Syndey away from her mother; he just wanted to spend time with his little girl. I don’t see how that makes him a bad person. Any NORMAL father would want to see his children. For anyone who is misinformed Maggie and Alan were never married! Maggie brought Sydney to Alan’s home to visit her paternal grandparents and seemed to be just fine with taking the child support check he gave her. (By the way friends of Maggie’s have stated that it was too bad none of those checks were ever spent on Sydney) I know for a fact that Alan bought Sydney cloths and many other things when she visited. He played with her and let her be a 7-year-old child and did not expect her to sit for hours on end just reading or drawing. He let her run, ride bike, which he bought for her to have at his house to play with. She was allowed to go to the park and play with her step- sister, who by the way is totally devastated at the death of her, little sister. She never thought of Syndey as a step, she was just “My little sister!”
I have children of my own, 4 to be exact, and I would go to the ends of the earth to protect them, Sure they get on your nerves sometimes but never has a thought of killing one of them crossed my mind.
I can only think that Maggie’s needed mental help. But you cannot blame a father for a mother’s mental state. Perhaps this so-called loving home she was in with her parents wasn’t as loving as you think Pixie. And just maybe before you defend Maggie or slander Alan you ought to know the facts,
You didn’t know Maggie, some of the rest of us did. You don’t know Alan, the rest of us do. So perhaps instead of venting you own person experiences or vendetta against men you should not say anything. My mother has a saying, “Better to keep your mouth shut and be thought a fool, then to open your mouth and remove all doubt.” I think there is no doubt that anyone who can condone a mother killing her child has removed all doubt

By: Shannon Berry

Shannon Berry — Tue, 04 Sep 2007 14:37:08 +0000

Wow, Pixie, someone really did something to you to make you a mean, bitter person. How does Maggie being a stripper not speak to her character, but does speak to the character of a man who would date a stripper? (Incidentally, that is NOT how they met, it was just a coincidence.) I think the fact that he continued to support her and did not try to make her out to be an unfit mother (which in my opinion, doing that kind of work is not exactly leading a good example for a daughter) speaks volumes about his willingness to try to work things out to maintain a relationship with his daughter. If you want to attack me, fine, but don’t continue to attack him. He is blameless in this. All he wanted was to continue to see his little girl, whom he showered with love at every possible occassion. He did not smother his dauther to death, nor did he force Maggie to. She had her own free will to do that. (On a side note, my sister was married to a real jerk who never gave my niece a second thought after he left her. She would do almost anything to keep her away from him–but never kill her. She loves her more than she hates him. Apparently Maggie didn’t see it that way.) Of course, that is assuming that she killed Sydney to keep her away from her father, which we don’t really know, do we? The police investigation is not over. All who knew Maggie (including her own lawyer) stated that the case was going well, and that Maggie did not show any signs of being upset over the matter. Perhaps she was in a realationship that was going bad, or was in some sort of trouble, or maybe, just maybe, she was just plain crazy. How can you justify a woman killing her own child? Do you have any idea what it takes to smother a person? A human, child or adult, will fight for her life. Maggie had to hold her down for several minutes in order to starve her brain of oxygen for her to stop struggling, then continue to smother her for several minutes longer for her to stop breathing. Think about that beautiful little girl, Pixie, struggling againts a woman she loved and trusted. Let’s say for argument’s sake that Maggie was “tortured” by this visitation case (which is what it was, not an attempt to remove Sydney from Maggie’s custody) and every day was hell for her thinking about Sydney’s father. So what? So run away. Find a new life somewhere else. Women do it all the time. Not to mention there are women all over the world who live way worse than she did and never, never harm their children. What a rough life she had with a nice car, a computer, a roof over her head, parents, and oh yea, a smart, talented, beautiful little girl who thought she hung the moon and stars. If you can justify in your own mind her killing her daughter, then perhaps you, Pixie, need to seek some help of your own, and God help protect any children you may have. In any case, please discontinue your comments about a man you do not know and a situation of which you know little. Your defense of a child killer and slander of Sydney’s father only goes to soil poor Sydney’s memory, and will make you no friends here.

By: anonymous

anonymous — Tue, 04 Sep 2007 06:24:24 +0000

I am a former employee of the Panera that Maggie and Sydney used to frequent. Sydney displayed the signs of an abused child. I frequently saw Maggie ignore Sydney for hours on end. Maggie would do her thing on her computer and expect Sydney to color or read a book. If Sydney tried to talk to someone or spaced out for just a few minutes Maggie yelled at her. Sydney was rude to adults. I’m not saying that this is her fault. Quite frankly I think that it is her mother’s fault. Her mother had no shame in being rude to Sydney and calling her demeaning names in public. As any normal child would, Sydney modeled that behavior. When I would try to be nice to her she would stick her tongue out or run away. Maggie thought it was funny. I will regret every day of my life that I did not follow my instincts and call DCFS on that woman.

By: pixie

pixie — Mon, 03 Sep 2007 05:41:44 +0000

Shannon Berry wrote:
“”"”Maggie was employed as an exotic dancer BEFORE she met Sydney’s father”"”"I am not saying this makes her a bad person, however, it does speak to her character”"”"

How old was Magdalene at the time? In her teens or her early 20’s? Of course this doesn’t make her a “bad” person, kids make mistakes (that’s all part of growing up) and it doesn’t speak about her character either, but it does speak volumes about yours and Alan’s.