Comments on: Mind Your Own Business, Mommy? http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/ Parenting, Politics and News for the Perfectly Challenged Thu, 04 Dec 2008 06:40:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Rebecca http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-137404 Rebecca Wed, 16 Jan 2008 04:42:04 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-137404 Thank you all for posting such perfect examples of typical "judgemental playgroup mom" behavior. I shall make sure to forward this page to all of my playgroup peers whom might be unclear as to what the true signs of this behavior are. Seriously... the world is not black and white. Isn't it possible that what she was just casually shooting hoops and not running up and down a court for 4 quarters like an NBA player? It appears that you all were so busy ranting that you didn't even take the time to think about the gray areas. ***Scoffs*** Thank you all for posting such perfect examples of typical “judgemental playgroup mom” behavior. I shall make sure to forward this page to all of my playgroup peers whom might be unclear as to what the true signs of this behavior are.

Seriously… the world is not black and white. Isn’t it possible that what she was just casually shooting hoops and not running up and down a court for 4 quarters like an NBA player? It appears that you all were so busy ranting that you didn’t even take the time to think about the gray areas.

***Scoffs***

]]> By: lildb http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-6041 lildb Tue, 07 Nov 2006 05:21:34 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-6041 omigod omigod omigod omigOD OMIGOD OMIGOD OMIGODDD *passes out from not breathing between omigods* omigod omigod omigod omigOD OMIGOD OMIGOD OMIGODDD *passes out from not breathing between omigods*

]]> By: Heather http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-6033 Heather Tue, 07 Nov 2006 02:30:04 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-6033 As a mom who has recently become the victim of "the look", the one where parents looked shocked when they hear my son who recently turned three is not yet potty trained, I agree that the line can be VERY thin. However, I think a few cautious words, as long as they are lacking in judgement, can go a long way. I do appreciate your concern. No one wants to feel as though they are being a busybody! Insightful blog! I enjoyed it. As a mom who has recently become the victim of “the look”, the one where parents looked shocked when they hear my son who recently turned three is not yet potty trained, I agree that the line can be VERY thin. However, I think a few cautious words, as long as they are lacking in judgement, can go a long way. I do appreciate your concern. No one wants to feel as though they are being a busybody! Insightful blog! I enjoyed it.

]]> By: mamacita tina http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-5662 mamacita tina Sun, 05 Nov 2006 14:17:10 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-5662 I tend to clam up in those situations, and then my mind can't stop thinking about the poor baby. I say we just stick our necks out there and say something, better to play it safe for the baby's sake. I tend to clam up in those situations, and then my mind can’t stop thinking about the poor baby. I say we just stick our necks out there and say something, better to play it safe for the baby’s sake.

]]> By: Ruth Dynamite http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-5368 Ruth Dynamite Fri, 03 Nov 2006 11:52:30 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-5368 There's no way she's actually playing tennis or basketball with any degree of intensity with a baby strapped to her chest. I don't buy it. There’s no way she’s actually playing tennis or basketball with any degree of intensity with a baby strapped to her chest. I don’t buy it.

]]> By: Dana http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-5146 Dana Thu, 02 Nov 2006 20:03:30 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-5146 Oh Lord! The thought of this woman playing sports with a child in a born scares the hell out of me. I don't care if she thought I am judgemental...that's just NOT sane. Not at all! Oh Lord! The thought of this woman playing sports with a child in a born scares the hell out of me. I don’t care if she thought I am judgemental…that’s just NOT sane. Not at all!

]]> By: Prescott http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-5137 Prescott Thu, 02 Nov 2006 18:43:19 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-5137 You know, this whole scenario has SNL commercial parody written all over it. Anyone have Tina Fey's cell number? You know, this whole scenario has SNL commercial parody written all over it. Anyone have Tina Fey’s cell number?

]]> By: Cristina http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-5116 Cristina Thu, 02 Nov 2006 16:12:26 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-5116 Kim, you're absolutely right. I didn't even think initially about the balls being dangerous. It's obviously not a good idea all around! Kim, you’re absolutely right. I didn’t even think initially about the balls being dangerous. It’s obviously not a good idea all around!

]]> By: Kim http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-5111 Kim Thu, 02 Nov 2006 15:39:39 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-5111 Ok, call me crazy, but my first reaction was not about shaken baby syndrome. My first thought was "what happens if the baby gets hit with a ball?" And why not just play your game during nap time and let the baby sleep in a stroller right next to the court? Some people just don't have any sense... Ok, call me crazy, but my first reaction was not about shaken baby syndrome. My first thought was “what happens if the baby gets hit with a ball?” And why not just play your game during nap time and let the baby sleep in a stroller right next to the court? Some people just don’t have any sense…

]]> By: Andrea http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4977 Andrea Thu, 02 Nov 2006 06:14:54 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4977 Hmmm... maybe she moved very carefully and put a bunch of blankets in there for padding. I can't imagine she was *really* playing. Maybe she brought it up at playgroup just for the purpose of getting everyone's reaction. I would have felt like you - compelled to say something but afraid of offending. Glad the baby appears to be OK now! Hmmm… maybe she moved very carefully and put a bunch of blankets in there for padding. I can’t imagine she was *really* playing. Maybe she brought it up at playgroup just for the purpose of getting everyone’s reaction. I would have felt like you - compelled to say something but afraid of offending. Glad the baby appears to be OK now!

]]> By: adwina - insparenting.com http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4971 adwina - insparenting.com Thu, 02 Nov 2006 04:17:19 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4971 I can't believe she did that to her child. Even though she probably had no idea about shaken baby syndrome, it's absolutely not safe for her to carry her child that way :(. If I were in your situation, I think I would talk to her privately and told her what I feel. I don't care if she would dump me. Losing a friend is 'better' than letting a friend put a child in danger. I can’t believe she did that to her child. Even though she probably had no idea about shaken baby syndrome, it’s absolutely not safe for her to carry her child that way :(.

If I were in your situation, I think I would talk to her privately and told her what I feel. I don’t care if she would dump me. Losing a friend is ‘better’ than letting a friend put a child in danger.

]]> By: Jenny http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4963 Jenny Wed, 01 Nov 2006 20:42:53 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4963 Ick. Stories like that make my stomach hurt. Ick. Stories like that make my stomach hurt.

]]> By: Maniacal http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4952 Maniacal Wed, 01 Nov 2006 19:29:32 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4952 BAHHH I couldn't even muster up enough energy to take a walk around the BLOCK with my baby in the carrier. Tennis?! Sheesh! She could have just been lightly playing. Ya know....like standing there and hitting the ball back and forth. Not like running around. Possible, right? BAHHH I couldn’t even muster up enough energy to take a walk around the BLOCK with my baby in the carrier. Tennis?! Sheesh!

She could have just been lightly playing. Ya know….like standing there and hitting the ball back and forth. Not like running around. Possible, right?

]]> By: Jess http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4946 Jess Wed, 01 Nov 2006 19:06:24 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4946 After reading this, I was also left with the same impression as Wendy B. How is that even logistically possible? After reading this, I was also left with the same impression as Wendy B. How is that even logistically possible?

]]> By: Jessica http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4941 Jessica Wed, 01 Nov 2006 17:23:51 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4941 Funny to me that the post is on being judgemental vs being concerned and several women on here were very VERY judgemental. Just an interesting little insight. I have a difficult time with it. Sometimes my opinion or what I have been told or read comes out of my mouth before I have a chance to remember: hey there is more than one way to parent. Otherwise I TRY to just keep my mouth shut unless it is a very good friend. On this one, though, I think I would have said something. Funny to me that the post is on being judgemental vs being concerned and several women on here were very VERY judgemental. Just an interesting little insight.

I have a difficult time with it. Sometimes my opinion or what I have been told or read comes out of my mouth before I have a chance to remember: hey there is more than one way to parent. Otherwise I TRY to just keep my mouth shut unless it is a very good friend.

On this one, though, I think I would have said something.

]]> By: Lotta http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4938 Lotta Wed, 01 Nov 2006 13:51:26 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4938 Wow - that goes beyond judgy. To comment on that would have simply been a concerned parent. It's not too late to say, "This has been sitting with me and I'm concerned for you." I know I've done some bonehead mom moves and needed a smack in the head from time to time. That said, my sister in law skied down BLACK DIAMONDS pregnant and with her baby in a Bjorn. Go figure! Wow - that goes beyond judgy. To comment on that would have simply been a concerned parent. It’s not too late to say, “This has been sitting with me and I’m concerned for you.” I know I’ve done some bonehead mom moves and needed a smack in the head from time to time. That said, my sister in law skied down BLACK DIAMONDS pregnant and with her baby in a Bjorn. Go figure!

]]> By: Tracie http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4936 Tracie Wed, 01 Nov 2006 06:09:34 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4936 I can't really imagine that anyone living near you hasn't heard of shaken baby syndrome....really, but maybe this crazy lady just didn't understand. Here is a question-even if she played tennis standing still-what happens if she missed a ball and it slammed inot the baby's head-that is a whole seperate brain damage issue. I dont' think I would have been able to restrain myself from saying something I can’t really imagine that anyone living near you hasn’t heard of shaken baby syndrome….really, but maybe this crazy lady just didn’t understand.

Here is a question-even if she played tennis standing still-what happens if she missed a ball and it slammed inot the baby’s head-that is a whole seperate brain damage issue.

I dont’ think I would have been able to restrain myself from saying something

]]> By: Prescott http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4933 Prescott Wed, 01 Nov 2006 03:05:23 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4933 I go skeet shooting with my Baby Bjorn. I go skeet shooting with my Baby Bjorn.

]]> By: mothergoosemouse http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4929 mothergoosemouse Wed, 01 Nov 2006 01:11:04 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4929 I've done a lot of stuff with my girls strapped to me in a Baby Bjorn, but playing sports is not on the list. I think I would've had to say something. Scratch that; the look on my face would've said it all. I’ve done a lot of stuff with my girls strapped to me in a Baby Bjorn, but playing sports is not on the list.

I think I would’ve had to say something. Scratch that; the look on my face would’ve said it all.

]]> By: Allison http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4920 Allison Wed, 01 Nov 2006 00:23:46 +0000 http://blog.imperfectparent.com/2006/10/31/mind-your-own-business-mommy/#comment-4920 I had a similar situation. My husband and I were at a BBQ at his friend from work's house. His wife was going on and on about how big her 6mo old son was and that she finally decided to turn his carseat around. I tried to tell her politely that 6mo was too young to be forward-facing and if she had an accident, the baby's neck "would be severly hurt". But she kept insisting he'd be "just fine". I finally just backed off and talked to someone else at the party. I had a similar situation. My husband and I were at a BBQ at his friend from work’s house. His wife was going on and on about how big her 6mo old son was and that she finally decided to turn his carseat around. I tried to tell her politely that 6mo was too young to be forward-facing and if she had an accident, the baby’s neck “would be severly hurt”. But she kept insisting he’d be “just fine”. I finally just backed off and talked to someone else at the party.

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