This psychologist isn’t holding anything back so if you think your child is just precocious because they’re a victim of pure genius, perhaps you just need a glass of cold water thrown in your face, a visit from Family psychologist John Rosemond and a serious reality check.

Q: Our 3-year-old daughter is very, very intelligent for her age. I know all parents think their children are smart but several doctors have told us she is very advanced. When she turned 2, she knew her colors, how to count to 10, her ABCs, and was talking like a 5-year-old. She orders her own food at restaurants, and when asked by the waitress how her meal is, she will say “It was splendid! I truly enjoyed it.”

She’s so advanced her pre-school teacher took her out of the toddler class and moved her in with the 4’s and 5’s. Our problem is that she doesn’t seem to understand that she’s a child and needs to respect adult authority. She will talk back and use a tone of voice as if we are the children and she is the parent. She recently told my mother that she was the boss of the house, not us. She’s become very demanding about things like what she wants to eat, and needless to say, she doesn’t obey us at all.

A: Whoa! Stop right there! First of all, you’re not going to make any progress with this child as long as you think you’re dealing with some unique being that represents a quantum evolutionary leap for all of humanity. When all has been said about her intelligence, one fact remains: she is a 3-year-old child. Unfortunately, she is rapidly turning into a 3-year-old insufferable brat, and no one is more insufferable than an insufferable genius.

Your daughter thinks she is an adult? As today’s youth are wont to say, “Duh!” You obviously treat her like she’s an adult! I’ll just bet that letting her order in restaurants is the tip of the iceberg. Does she have her own checking account? If not, the way things are going, she soon will.

My point is that you are reaping nothing short of what you have sown. For at least two years, you’ve crowed over how superior your daughter is, and now she’s acting like she’s superior to everyone, including you. No surprises there. She doesn’t respect authority because you have failed to act like authority figures. The bottom line is that you either have the World’s Most Amazing Child or a child who is obedient and respectful, but you can’t have both.

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